The Ultimate Dildo & Dong Buying Guide

Everything you need to know to buy the perfect dildo.

Sex With T.S.
Nov 4 · 9 min read

So you’re in the market for a dildo, but you’re not sure what dildo you’d like to buy. No worries. I’m here to help you sort that out.

With so many options from anal dildos, g-spot dildos, and several varieties of strap-ons, to choosing the size, material, and even color considerations, it can be an overwhelming decision to make. And with your pleasure at stake, one you’re definitely not looking to get wrong.

To help you sort through the options and make the decision of what dildo is best for you, I wrote this guide to walk through all the things you need to think about before and after you buy your future dildo.

Type of Dildos

There are so many different types of dildos. Here are all the different types you have to choose from a little about each so you can determine which one is right for you and your particular pleasure needs.

1. Anal Dildos

Anal dildos are a great way to spice up the bedroom. For men and women, anal dildos come in a variety of makes, shapes, and sizes.

Anal plugs, anal probes, and prostate massagers all fall under the anal dildo category. For men, anal toys are perfect for massaging that P-spot.

While for women, the combination of anal and clitoral stimulation can lead to amazing orgasms not achievable through vaginal or clitoral stimulation alone.

2. Brutal Dildos

There are massive dildos, and then there are brutal dildos.

They are considerably larger than anything you will ever see in real life, with extreme girth and length. They often come in odd shapes as well, adding tho their appeal.

Brutal dildos are for those who want a truly full-filling experience with their sex toys. Not for the newbie or faint of heart. You have to be a real sex toy aficionado to really appreciate and be able to use brutal dildos.

3. Double Dongs

Make your adult fantasies come true with the use of a double dong. Named for being a double-ended dildo, these sex toys allow for couples to be pleasured simultaneously.

No need for multiple sex toys to get the sexy times started.

Great for group play as well; the possibilities are endless when a double dong is added to the mix. They come in all types, materials, and lengths and a must-have for any true sex toy collector.

4. G-Spot Dildos

G-Spot dildos do precisely what their name suggests: stimulate the g-spot.

These dildos are great for helping women who may not have vaginal orgasms, have vaginal orgasms.

G-Spot dildos are curved in such a way to make accessing the g-spot a foregone conclusion. No more wondering if it is there or not.

It’s there and will get all of the attention it needs.

5. Glass Dildos

Glass dildos are the gold standard when it comes to sex toys in general and dildos in particular. Glass dildos are not only beautiful, but they allow for all types of fun and exciting play since they can be heated up and cooled down with ease.

Glass is also a great material for sex toys because it is so easy to clean. You can take your glass dildo and wash it in soapy water, wipe it down with a disinfecting wipe or just toss it in the dishwasher and let it do the cleaning. Because of their premium status, many glass dildos have a premium price.

6. Large Dildos

If you like things big in real life, large dildos are the next best thing. Larger than normal, large dildos give you the length and girth you’re looking for if you like to have that “full” feeling.

Starting at 7-inches, large dildos come in all sorts of shapes, sizes, and colors. They are definitely not for the dildo beginner, large dildos can take some work before you can get one all the way in, but once you do amazing sensations that follow would have been well worth the effort.

8. Realistic Dildos

When you can’t have the real thing, realistic dildos are your next best option. Looking as close to a human penis as possible, realistic dildos will have the shape. size and head of the real thing.

Certain models will even give you the veins, the testicles, and feel of real man parts, so you can really feel like you’re experiencing the real thing and not just a toy. There’s even a squirting realistic dildo that makes the “realistic” illusion complete.

9. Strap On Dildos

Whether you’re a lady looking to be the “man” for the evening or a man looking to extend what you already have going on, strap-on dildos are great to up the creativity and action in the bedroom.

With a strap-on dildo, each night can be something new with different sizes, shapes, and girths available for you and your partner’s pleasure. Strap-ons dildos come in two types:

  1. The standard strap-on — which requires a harness and has a strong base
  2. The penis extender or hollow strap on — which is a strap-on for men suffering erectile dysfunction and can be used whether a man is soft or hard.

Each offers a chance to change things up and add variety to your sex life. Great for role play, adding a strap-on dildo to your sex toy collection is a great way to fulfill some fantasies and to keep that spark alive.

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Let’s Talk Sex Toy Materials

What your future new toy is made of for both your pleasure and your safety. You want to avoid sex toys made of toxic materials and sex toys made of body-safe but porous materials.

Porous sex toys are near impossible to completely clean because bacteria can get trapped inside the dildos and could cause you an infection or other skin irritation if you continue to use them.

With that information in mind, let’s look at the different types of sex toy materials, both good and bad:

Toxic & Porus Sex Toy Materials

TPR/TPE — Also known as elastomer, TPR/TPE is the popular material used to create sex toys. It’s the material that often gives sex toys that new car smell.

Fanta Flesh/Cyber-Skin — Most of the “real feel” sex toys are made of Fanta Flesh. It feels amazing and really is close to the real thing, but it is highly porous.

Jelly — A very popular choice for sex toys because if how it feels and how flexible it is; it is very toxic and porous.

PVC — Similar to jelly sex toys are toxic and porous and should be avoided at all costs.

Latex — Many people have latex allergies, and it is just not a material that should be used internally when it comes to sex toys (condoms are a different matter).

Body-Safe and Non-Toxic Sex Toy Materials

Silicone — A favorite among those who stress safety with sex toys. Silicone toys are body-safe, easy to clean, and offer opportunities for temperature play.

ABS Plastic — ABS Plastic is completely safe and is a common material used in cheaper toys that want to avoid toxic materials. The one downside is that it tends to be hard and inflexible, not always making for the most pleasurable experience.

Glass — Not much more needs to be said about glass as a material. Similar to silicone, it is easy to clean and allows for amazing temperature play.

Wood — Wood sex toys are completely safe, and no, they aren’t porous because of the finish used on them. And no, you aren’t going to get any splinters if you use one.

Metal — Steel and aluminum are the most common types of metal used to make sex toys. Like silicone and glass, metal is super easy to clean and allows for temperature play, adding some variety to your dildo playing time.

Care & Maintenance

Once you’ve bought your dildo, you’re going to want it to last you; this is where proper care and maintenance come in.

Caring for you dildo the right way, will ensure your dildo last you for years and year instead of weeks or months.

It’s important to follow the care guidelines that are included with your dildo, however here are some general guidelines to follow that will apply to most dildos.

1. Use the Right Lubrication

Lube comes in three varieties: water-based, oil-based, and silicone-based. While there is no wrong lubrication, all lubrication doesn’t work with all types of sex toy materials.

It’s important to know which lube works with which sex toy material or you could damage your toy beyond repair, and you will not only be out of a toy but all whatever money you spent.

Below is a handy chart that lets you know what type of lubrication works best with every type of popular sex toy materials.

  • Silicone — Water-based only. Silicone and oil-based lube could damage the dildo.
  • ABS Plastic — Any type of lube
  • Glass — Any type of lube
  • Wood — Any type of lube
  • Steel — Any type of lube

2. Properly Clean and Sterilize Your Dildo

Properly cleaning and sterilizing your toys is super important, particularly if you will be sharing them in any way.

You don’t want to leave any bodily fluids around between use as if could breed pretty nasty bacteria that could cause you or your partner pretty nasty infections.

Most toys, warm water, and anti-bacterial soap will be enough to clean them. However, for full sterilization, you’re going to want to do more.

With toys made of glass, stainless steel or silicone cleaning and sterilizing is easy since they can (in most cases) be boiled or tossed in the dishwasher.

With toys made of a more porous material such as CyberSkin or Jelly, a sex toy cleaner can help with sterilizing them, though there is a chance bacteria can still be left behind. Condom use is a must if you’re going to share a toy made out of such material.

3. Store Your Toys in a Cool Dry Place

Storing your toys properly is just as important as cleaning them properly. Not storing your toys in a cool, dry place could lead to irreparable damage. Many toys will come with a pouch or box they can be stored in.

If not, a plastic bag or some other waterproof storage is a great way to store your toys to keep them dry and cool.

Be sure to store anal toys separate from your other toys as you don’t want to risk any cross-contamination with toys you or your partner use vaginally.


Welp, there you have it. Everything you need to know to buy your perfect dildo. I readily admit I prefer dildos to vibrators because I feel they are better at hitting the spots I need hitting.

Also with suction cups and other apparatus, you can stick your dildo to the floor or the wall and go to town on it like you would a man’s penis.

So go forth, dildo buyer. Find and purchase your new pleasure tool that will give you wave after wave of orgasms, hopefully for years to come.

Happy shopping.

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