Single ≠ Available ≠ Interested
A single person may want to date, have sex, or start a ongoing romantic or sexual relationship — or they might not. Not all single people are available.
Single — Does not have an ongoing romantic or sexual relationship.
Partnered — Does have an ongoing romantic or sexual relationship.
Here are a couple of reasons someone may not want to date or have sex:
- They are asexual (not sexually attracted to people any gender) and/or aromantic (not romantically attracted to people of any gender).
- They do not have the time or energy for dating or a relationship.
A person with a sexual or romantic partner may still want to date, have sex, or start a relationship with someone else. Not all partnered people are unavailable.
Available — Potentially interested in dating, having sex, or starting a new relationship.
Unavailable — Not potentially interested in dating, having sex, or starting a new relationship.
There are a huge variety of non-monogamous relationship styles. Here are a few examples:
- A sexually open relationship where a couple is only romantically involved with each other but each person can also have sex with other people.
- A polyamorous person who have multiple sexual and romantic relationships with different people.
- A triad where three people are all involved with each other but do not have partners outside the group.
A person may be open to dating, sex, or relationships — whether they are single or partnered — and still not interested in doing any of those things with you. Available doesn’t mean interested.
Interested — Wants to date, have sex, or start a relationship with a particular person.
You should never assume that:
- A person is single because they are available
- A person is available because they are single
- A person is partnered because they are unavailable
- A person is unavailable because they are partnered.
- A person is interested because they are single
- A person is interested because they are non-monogamous
- A person is interested because they are available