Single ≠ Available ≠ Interested

A single person may want to date, have sex, or start a ongoing romantic or sexual relationship — or they might not. Not all single people are available.

Single — Does not have an ongoing romantic or sexual relationship.

Partnered — Does have an ongoing romantic or sexual relationship.

Here are a couple of reasons someone may not want to date or have sex:

  • They are asexual (not sexually attracted to people any gender) and/or aromantic (not romantically attracted to people of any gender).
  • They do not have the time or energy for dating or a relationship.

A person with a sexual or romantic partner may still want to date, have sex, or start a relationship with someone else. Not all partnered people are unavailable.

Available — Potentially interested in dating, having sex, or starting a new relationship.

Unavailable — Not potentially interested in dating, having sex, or starting a new relationship.

There are a huge variety of non-monogamous relationship styles. Here are a few examples:

  • A sexually open relationship where a couple is only romantically involved with each other but each person can also have sex with other people.
  • A polyamorous person who have multiple sexual and romantic relationships with different people.
  • A triad where three people are all involved with each other but do not have partners outside the group.

A person may be open to dating, sex, or relationships — whether they are single or partnered — and still not interested in doing any of those things with you. Available doesn’t mean interested.

Interested — Wants to date, have sex, or start a relationship with a particular person.

You should never assume that:

  • A person is single because they are available
  • A person is available because they are single
  • A person is partnered because they are unavailable
  • A person is unavailable because they are partnered.
  • A person is interested because they are single
  • A person is interested because they are non-monogamous
  • A person is interested because they are available