17 Sex Tricks Men Learn From Porn That Women Wish We Could Wipe From Your Brain
Yes, women can tell when a man watches too much porn
When Shakespeare wrote “all the world’s a stage,” he probably didn’t imagine our private sex lives becoming stages. Unfortunately, our modern world has placed even sex on a grand stage.
In 1970, legendary sex researchers Masters and Johnson coined the term “spectatoring” to refer to sex in which someone focuses on a third-person perspective instead of one’s sensations and partner. Spectatoring is the opposite of mindfulness. Often, spectatoring is the root of body image issues and performance fears.
Pleasure should never feel performative. Unfortunately, much of porn culture feeds spectatoring.
The damage begins when men watch male porn stars perform sex acts with female porn stars feigning pleasure. Men then repeat those sex tricks with real women. Real women are also watching porn and are conditioned to believe they should moan, squirt, and orgasm to what they see in porn. When they don’t get the same results, they fake orgasms because they don’t want to hurt the man’s ego.
Thus, we have a vicious cycle of women playacting their pleasure and men never learning how to please a woman.
