5 Things to Mix Up Your Sex Routine with a Routine Partner
It doesn’t have to be just new toys and dress-up
When you’re in a long-term sexual partnership, an eternal challenge is how to keep sexy fun time both sexy and fun. In the early days, there’s a sense of discovery and passion that comes with the newness. You each have something to teach each other. Words like “rabbits” and “marathon” might be tossed around.
The newness wears off and is replaced with a reliable comfort. You know you can come home after a terrible day and get your jollies on, seeking that release and catharsis only your partner can provide. Your uncontrolled blaze of passion calms to a crackling, life-giving, orgasm-granting fire.
But, inevitably, that comfort turns routine. The routine risks becoming predictable. It doesn’t matter how hellaciously hot the sex is at the beginning or how cozy the familiarity, that flame will want to smoke and fizzle. Especially when you can start counting your relationship in terms of years or decades.
The standard suggestions for spicing up your love life typically include toys, negligee, and fantasy-play. Those are all fine and dandy, valid suggestions to be sure. But what do you do once those are played out?
