7 Psychological Reasons Behind (Your) BDSM Cravings

The science and evolution of power play

Eszter Brhlik
Feb 22 · 8 min read

1. Evolutional Background — A Reproduction Strategy

2. Influential Initial Experiences

3. An Experience In Sex That Reality Can’t Provide

4. It’s Chemistry, Babes

5. “Taboo Topic” Turn-On

“There is a charm about the forbidden that makes it unspeakably desirable.”
-Mark Twain

6. Post Traumatic Stress From a Previous Relationship

7. To Process A Past Trauma

+1. Mental Illness

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Eszter Brhlik

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I combine non-fiction and fiction writing to answer striking questions. I’m a walking contradiction with a cheap sense of humor. Let’s talk: eszterbrh@gmail.com

Sexography

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I combine non-fiction and fiction writing to answer striking questions. I’m a walking contradiction with a cheap sense of humor. Let’s talk: eszterbrh@gmail.com

Sexography

Conversations about sex from all around the world

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