8 More Things No One Told Me About Sex
So much sex-centric stuff we don’t talk about but should
1 Lube is not a four-letter word. Okay, it is, technically. But it’s not a bad word. Some people or anatomy regions don’t produce enough natural lubrication to keep lovemaking comfortable. Needing to use lubrication during sex doesn’t make you an underperforming partner.
It’s not always an age or attraction thing. It’s just body chemistry. As many as 30% of women ages 18 to 59 claim they needed to add some KY or Wet ’n’ Wild to the downstairs according to a 2009 report. Vaginal dryness could relate to your hydration levels, medicines you are or have been on, your hormonal cycle, or just how your body is built. Lube is your friend. Feel no shame. And lube is a must for any anal play.
2 Erogenous zones are not universal. Maybe you love having your earlobe nibbled. Nipple play might be your golden ticket. Everyone has different erogenous zones, and even some of the “obvious” ones might not work for your partner.
This is where communication comes in. Guide your partner to the bits that will get you nice and randy. Take instruction, and if your do-si-do partner asks you to stop slobbering all over their ear, maybe stop. If they ask you to lick their elbow or play with their toes, be open-minded and give it a shot…
