Am I Innately Polyamorous?
Hint: If You Think So, You Probably Are; If You Think You Aren’t, You Still Probably Are
During a recent email exchange with an internet friend, she uttered the simple, yet, profound words, “I feel like I’m innately poly.” I know, without a second of hesitation, many of my poly readers just nodded their heads in their seats as their eyes scrolled across that opening statement. To us, this is just so self-evident that it goes without saying. We just think, “Duh, that’s me.” Others, however, might have recoiled from the idea. People are often polite in their disagreements about the nature of polyamory, they say that they respect poly situations and dynamics as a personal choice, but, in the end, it’s not for them. Such people think they’re destined to be monogamous. They cannot see it as a cultural construct.
Full disclosure: I’m here to respectfully challenge this belief. This is a respectable, commendable position to take and I deeply thank these people for their respectful willingness to accommodate our new (in our culture, at least) way of life. Without the liberal attitudes of those around us, the poly lives that many of us live wouldn’t be possible in the first place. Very well. But whether we like it or not, feeling deep attraction for multiple partners throughout our lives is built into the fabric of our DNA.
