Sexuality
Anal Sex: Is it Power or Play?
Is anal sex really just a tool of misogyny or is there a deeper meaning to it?
The late, brilliant writer Christopher Hitchens once said, “the four most overrated things in life are champagne, lobster, anal sex, and picnics.” And this quip speaks to the diversity of human opinions on things, especially things that are revered in some way.
One man’s Gucci suit is another man’s useless rags. One woman’s “off-limits” is another woman’s “yes please.”
And as such, most people have extremely strong and varied opinions about anal sex in general. Doing a brief search here on Medium and you can find an array of people who both condone it and condemn it.
Some consider it the ultimate taboo to be avoided, others consider it the heights of pleasure to be indulged in. And it’s no wonder why.
The potential for both pain and pleasure on the behalf of the recipient of anal sex naturally lends itself into sexual dynamics which are heavy into power-play, BDSM, dominant and submissive relationships, etc.
For many recipients, the pain is where the magic is — they enjoy submitting to pain to please their partners and actually get off on it. For others, they derive a great deal of pleasure from…
