Are You Allowed to Be a Mother and Also Love Sex?
Confessions of a ‘slut-mom’, and how I learned to embrace myself as a whole woman
I don’t write a lot of articles about parenting—for the simple reason that I do write a lot about sex. As taught by society, I think; who’d want to read parenting advice from someone who also offers tips on how to perform the hottest cunnilingus?
I would—I’d love that! But, then again, I often feel like a minority: I’m a mom who loves sex. I’m someone who makes space for and takes deep pleasure in her own sexual expression and fulfillment. I’m a mother who also feels unabashedly sexual—clearly not all the time, but I know how to turn it on—and I do!
Mothers aren’t supposed to behave like that!
But I do it anyway.
I do it with the ingrained knowing that I’m being bad. I’m doing something wrong. And I keep it on the DL, to blend in with the other moms on the playground.
—What do you write about? they ask.
—Ehhmmm, feminism, mental health…stuff…
I keep all the stuff neatly tucked away around the other mothers who know to be decent; the ones who have accepted that motherhood robs us of our sexuality, who knows that the act that makes the Madonna erases…
