Can Masturbation Screw With Your Orgasms?
Masturbation can be a double-edged sword. Here’s why.
Before anyone gets offended or defensive, I want to make it clear that I’m not at all anti-masturbation. This isn’t an article telling you to stop pleasuring yourself, instead, I’m here to argue for what I’ll call mindful masturbation—self-pleasure with purpose and intent—as a way to increase satisfaction and improve your sex life. On the contrary, I believe that mindless, careless wanking could have the complete opposite effect.
You may think that, as a sex writer, I’m the type who can orgasm in all kinds of ways and in any position imaginable. I wish that was true, but alas, it isn’t—and I’ll let you in on a secret: I used to only be able to orgasm one single way; on my back, with my legs tense and straight while quickly rubbing (or have someone else rub or lick) my clit. Let’s call it the log pose.
Learning to orgasm differently didn’t happen for me by accident, instead, I excised my orgasmic abilities. Still nowhere near Emma’s 12 different ways to orgasm, I’m getting closer, slowly, surely — and with conscious effort and self-training.
Now, being multi-orgasmic or able to reach orgasm in a number of ways shouldn’t be a competition. Your sex life isn’t necessarily better because you can come while…
