During Oral Sex, You May Want to Get Clear on Who It’s “For”
One conversation could change everything.
Taylor loves giving oral sex. But Simon, Taylor’s partner, feels uncomfortable receiving it.
He doesn’t like to be the center of attention. Every time he receives head, he worries his partner isn’t having fun and is only doing it for his sake. His libido shuts down.
The first few times Taylor and Simon hung out and went home together, Taylor started to go down on Simon, and after a minute or two, Simon indicated that they should stop.
After a few encounters, Taylor (reasonably) assumed Simon must not like oral sex and just stopped trying to give it to him.
Sounds like a common story, doesn’t it? Sounds also reasonable, perhaps? And it is in many ways. If every time you were to rub your partner’s shoulders, they pulled away from you, you would stop doing it too.
But what if it didn’t have to go this way? What if some communication made all the difference?
What if one little conversation changed everything?
Talk about who it's “for.”
Recently, I learned about something fascinating called the Wheel of Consent. The Wheel of Consent, developed by Betty Martin…
