How to Stimulate the Prostate Without Insertion

Perineum stimulation and massage is pleasurable, and easy to do alone or with a partner.

Demeter deLune
Jan 16 · 4 min read

Exploring your perineum in the shower

If you’re going to orgasm through the perineum, you need to explore that body of yours! While you’re in the shower, use your warm hands to see what’s going on down there. While standing, try ‘picking yourself up’. Take your index and middle finger and begin applying pressure, lifting up slightly to feel your fingers dig into your perineum. Continue to apply pressure as you get closer to your anus. You can also squat to make it a little easier to reach your spot. You can push your pelvic and rectum muscles in and out as you apply pressure to better position your prostate to the inner walls of your perineum. With time, you should feel light contractions of your testicles.

Try using some toys

Vibration is an awesome way to get the perineum involved in your pleasure game. If you don’t own a prostate massager, get one ASAP. They change the game. There are a number of awesome massagers on the market, with our favorite being the Lovense Edge 2. But you don’t have to use an insertable toy to attain prostate pleasure. Hot Octopuss has an awesome penis ring, the Atom Plus, that vibrates the perineum while wearing, if that’s more your speed.

The Bottom Line

If you can’t have an orgasm through the perineum or find you just aren’t that into this kind of stimulation, that’s perfectly okay. Every single body is different and not everyone has orgasms in the same way. There isn’t even enough scientific information out there to know if every man even can have orgasm this way. The goal of sex doesn’t always have to be about orgasm, and stimulating the most sensitive spots of your body in order to reach it. Instead, you can experience more variety of sensation by exploring lesser-known erogenous zones, and broadening your definition of pleasure to include areas that may have less concentration of nerve endings, but are still incredibly pleasurable and erotic. As you expand your experience, you’ll find that sex becomes less about one specific activity, and more about a combination of pleasurable experiences.

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Demeter deLune

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Sex educator working toward a more sex positive world, one word at a time. Contact: demeterdelune@gmail.com YouTube: bit.ly/3n5LpC5

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Sex educator working toward a more sex positive world, one word at a time. Contact: demeterdelune@gmail.com YouTube: bit.ly/3n5LpC5

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