How to Stimulate the Prostate Without Insertion

Prostate stimulation is a fantastic way for men to experience orgasm in a new and exciting way. But not all men are comfortable with the idea of something being inserted into their anus. So, how do you achieve the stimulation you want, without doing something that makes you uncomfortable? Meet the perineum.

The perineum is the patch of skin located between the anus and the scrotum. Popular terms for this area include taint, gouche, grundle, or gooch. When touched, massaged, or otherwise engaged in sexual play, it can offer plenty of enjoyment. Because it’s nearby the internal prostate gland, stimulating it externally can bring similar sensations to actual prostate massage. You might be wondering how it is that you haven’t heard about perineum pleasure or orgasms before now. That’s totally normal. Given the inconsistencies in sex education around the world, many of us aren’t fully aware of our anatomy.

It’s rare to see perineum massage explored in pornography, and it’s never discussed in sexual education classes, so it makes sense that men don’t think about this area being sexual. Stigma is also a reason men hold back from exploration. Due to outdated notions about men’s sexuality, men rarely talk about stimulating areas of their body, outside their penis and scrotum. Society has them convinced anything outside the so-called norm is homosexual or deviant behavior. Ridiculous. Pleasure is pleasure and doesn’t have a sexuality.

If you’re interested in exploring more pleasure for yourself, here are some ways to stimulate your perineum.

Exploring your perineum in the shower

If you’re going to orgasm through the perineum, you need to explore that body of yours! While you’re in the shower, use your warm hands to see what’s going on down there. While standing, try ‘picking yourself up’. Take your index and middle finger and begin applying pressure, lifting up slightly to feel your fingers dig into your perineum. Continue to apply pressure as you get closer to your anus. You can also squat to make it a little easier to reach your spot. You can push your pelvic and rectum muscles in and out as you apply pressure to better position your prostate to the inner walls of your perineum. With time, you should feel light contractions of your testicles.

Try using some toys

Vibration is an awesome way to get the perineum involved in your pleasure game. If you don’t own a prostate massager, get one ASAP. They change the game. There are a number of awesome massagers on the market, with our favorite being the Lovense Edge 2. But you don’t have to use an insertable toy to attain prostate pleasure. Hot Octopuss has an awesome penis ring, the Atom Plus, that vibrates the perineum while wearing, if that’s more your speed.

Get on the bed, lie on your back, and relax. Apply pressure to the inch right before your anus and at a certain point, you’re going to find a spot that sends little jolts of electricity through your body. Stroke while stimulating to experience multiple orgasms, or just stimulate that area alone to reach your milking point. Use a firm pressure to massage, rub, or stroke the perineum. You might want to warm up with light strokes, then increase pressure into a firmer massage. Start with lighter vibrations, and then work up to the most intense power. You can increase or decrease the pressure of the vibrator against the perineum to control the sensation. Don’t get bent out of shape if you don’t reach orgasm the first few (or even several) times you try this. It’s a journey, not necessarily a destination. Enjoying the ride while you work your way to orgasm is half the fun!

The Bottom Line

If you can’t have an orgasm through the perineum or find you just aren’t that into this kind of stimulation, that’s perfectly okay. Every single body is different and not everyone has orgasms in the same way. There isn’t even enough scientific information out there to know if every man even can have orgasm this way. The goal of sex doesn’t always have to be about orgasm, and stimulating the most sensitive spots of your body in order to reach it. Instead, you can experience more variety of sensation by exploring lesser-known erogenous zones, and broadening your definition of pleasure to include areas that may have less concentration of nerve endings, but are still incredibly pleasurable and erotic. As you expand your experience, you’ll find that sex becomes less about one specific activity, and more about a combination of pleasurable experiences.

Demeter deLune is a writer forged in the fires of desire. You can join her email list here.