Is Anal More Intimate Than ‘Regular’ Sex?

Why I won’t let ‘just anyone’ into my most sacred of spaces…

Ena Dahl
Ena Dahl
Dec 9, 2020 · 5 min read

The anus and rectum are incredibly sensitive

First, with one of the densest concentrations of nerve endings, the external anal sphincter is one of the most sensitive parts of the human body. You, therefore, don’t even have to go inside to experience a lot of pleasure. Internal stimuli can be incredibly delightful when you’re able to relax and open; then you may enjoy the wonderful feeling of fullness. Rousing the prostate, for those who have one, or reaching the internal part of the clitoris can provide added layers of pleasure.

Trust is a prerequisite to relaxation

Some might be able to chill out completely with just about anyone, but the majority will feel calmer and more open with someone they trust and feel safe with.

It requires (a lot) more prep

Another thing I need in order to relax for anal is to be prepared, not just mentally, but physically too. While vaginas are self-cleaning and require little added maintenance, the butt can be a different story.

An asshole is just kinda moody

Some days butt stuff feels fantastic and other days they don’t—at all! This might be true for all sex, to some degree, but it’s especially true for anal. The sphincter is not only sensitive, but temperamental and therefore any kind of tension, stress, and exhaustion can affect its behavior.

It’s oh-so-intense, which makes me feel oh-so-vulnerable

This is the most defining point for me: When anal sex is really good, I will momentarily transcend my body to hover somewhere above it for an undefinable amount of time. In these spaced-out moments, I have very little control over the movements and sounds I make. With vaginal sex, on the other hand, I still feel (mostly) in charge.

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Ena Dahl

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Ena Dahl

Multidimensional creatrix & muse seeking to unite sexuality & spirituality, instigate alchemical healing & ignite the wild (wo)man | enadahl.com

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Multidimensional creatrix & muse seeking to unite sexuality & spirituality, instigate alchemical healing & ignite the wild (wo)man | enadahl.com

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