LGBTQIA/Sexuality/Relationships
Is It Cheating if it’s with Another Dude?
Being “gay for a day” while out on the town may feel liberating when actually it imprisons.
The way I see it, if you want the rainbow, you gotta put up with the rain.
— Dolly Parton
Sometimes we don’t want to want what we want.
I used to tell myself All I want is a blow job. To achieve that goal, I was going to have to look for it. First, I had a lot of questions: Who does what to whom? How is that negotiated? Where do I go to find it? What would be expected of me in return? What if I like it too much? I didn’t feel it was safe to ask anyone those questions.
My first experiments with cruising — if you can even call them that — didn’t go well.
Having read the ads in Blue Boy magazine, I thought my best chance to achieve my goal would be in New York City. I found a course on hypnosis in NYC that I was semi-interested in. I needed continuing education credits to maintain my license, so it would be easy to sell to my wife. NYC was four hours from where we lived in Maine.
Time Square had once been the hub of New York’s world-class theater. But it had deteriorated into one of the seediest…
