Is Your Partner Allowed to Watch Porn?
That’s a trick question: the truth is that it’s not your call
Pornography is nothing new. It has existed since long before the Internet made it easily accessible day or night without leaving the house or using your credit card.
Years ago, it was silently accepted that your husband or boyfriend watched porn, but your wife or girlfriend did not. Watching porn was something men did. Women were too busy being barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen, and they didn’t ask questions about the Hustler magazines in the garage or hidden under the bed.
Thank goodness things have changed, but not everything has changed for the better. Rather than ushering in a new age of acceptance and understanding, some couples have instituted a spoken, or unspoken, pornography ban.
Watching porn isn’t cheating. So what’s the problem?
In some cases, it’s about jealousy. In other cases, it’s about control. I can speak with authority about control because my last failed relationship was with a man who was an overbearing control freak. I am ashamed to say I let him get away with it, but I have to speak my truth no matter how much it hurts. I just might be able to help someone else.
