Life Lessons From the Bedroom
Understanding our attraction patterns is the first step to healing.
I was addicted to my sex friend.
Back when I shared that story I got a lot of comments from readers saying it’s love. It’s not only sex. I also got a lot of comments from readers saying this story told their story too.
I needed to understand why some of us get so hooked by unavailable partners. Some of my best friends have no interest for them whatsever, while some others fall prey just like I did.
Lesson #1 Unavailable partners are addictive
Like a highly addictive casino game, he was paying out every once in a while. Addictive AF.
Waiting for a text, waiting for a sign. I was losing on most days. But when I won, I won big.
You see, playing for a jackpot is way more appealing to our nervous system than the regular and anticipated bank deposits on your paycheck.
So a lover who gives a lot every once in a while will hook your nervous system more than someone who’s consistently available.
Someone available is lovely the way a field of blooming flowers is. But no one gets addicted to flower fields.
