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Modern Sexual Options Described as Ice Cream Flavors
And why social constraints around sexual identity exist in the first place.
Let’s say that vanilla is opposite gender attraction and chocolate is same gender attraction. Heterosexuals love vanilla. Homosexuals love chocolate. Bisexuals love both. Pansexuals don’t just love vanilla and chocolate, they’re into all the flavors. And asexuals prefer slushies. Reddit
Why do we define sex as an identity?
And as long as we are talking about sexual relations between consenting adults, why are there limits on what kinds of sex are considered ok and what kinds aren’t?
Isn’t sex something we do throughout our lifetimes? Not an indelible identity?
This is where we could all use a lesson from the horny, drunk, and often naked Ancient Greeks. Although same-sex relations were common among Ancient Greeks, they didn’t have a word for homosexuality. They viewed sex as an act, rather than an identity. People had sex because it was something they wanted to do — it didn’t define them. It didn’t limit them. Grace Ryan
The French philosopher Foucault wrote that legislating sex, sexual identity, and the definition of sexual archetypes was actually done as a method of social…
