Porn Can Be Sober, Freeing and Funny
When it isn’t ‘hardcore’, you get to notice the little things that make sex cute, and porn less intoxicating
Pornography is in many cases intoxicating, depending on your state of mind and sexual mood prior to opting for the ‘erotica’. The power of consuming porn at those moments when your body yearns for pleasure, is what makes the self pleasure or the stimulation successful. But, one thing you don’t want after watching porn is to get stuck in the sensual loop.
Sometimes all we want to do is watch it like an Instagram post, and just keep scrolling through our day like nothing happened.
Feminist pornography, upholds ethics by often featuring storylines, and always contracted, paid adults having consensual sex. The nature of this kind of porn is ‘sober’ and can enhance couples’ sexual experiences by warming them up in the bedroom and sparking creativity.
Pornographic content that showcases consenting partners in a relationship, choosing to extend the lens of their sexual life to viewers, deserves popularity and relevance in today’s world of explicit over-stimulation. Not everyone has to watch pornographic stunts, some just want to see two people make love.
Porn should foster creativity in sexuality, not compulsive behaviour.
Any porn that allows communication, and display of natural emotions, when the sex is going on, is usually gentle on the aroused mind. When you consume tender porn, you gradually tap out from the euphoria of the unrealistic moments of mainstream porn, and you open up other parts of your emotion, including the non-sexual healthy ones like laughter and curiosity.
Watching sober porn, where both parties are simply being human and having sex without so many stunts is so freeing and is something we should try often. The mind is precious and sexual stimulants like pornography don’t have to always intoxicate the tranquility of our psyche. Porn can be enjoyed like a funny enlightening movie, without temporarily shutting our minds off.
When consuming sexual content, it’s healthy to get yourself to a safe place. Constant repetition and viewing is detriment to productivity, and allowing porn make you laugh would reduce the effects it has on the rest of your day.
About an hour before writing this, I just watched a really cute porn, full of communication and I was able to have genuine fun, not just be aroused. The man was ‘blind’ and his masseuse helped bathe him, and then funnier and chatty massaging was done till the masseuse wore the man his glasses and he could see her ‘beauty’ clearly. He ‘was’ a virgin who didn’t know what the vagina or breasts felt like, and he kept asking which ‘base’ the masseuse was on.
This chit chat allowed the masseuse also communicate and some truly funny moments were born. Though the whole scenario was kind of ridiculous, but isn’t that what sex is, isn’t that reality? It was far from perfect, but it was definitely less compulsive than a lot of other content you’re most likely to come across.
It later got quite intense, but prior to the increase in tempo, there was a really funny and creative build up that’ll allow your mind express other valid and healthy emotions.
Pornography sometimes through creative build up should have a system of stages, each assigned a ‘toned’ level of intensity, to empower viewers to opt out, and not get lost in the spiral of emotions that comes with the ‘demands of longevity’.
We need to encourage more natural kind of porn in our culture, less stunts and more emotions in sexual content is the way to go. Pornography needs to be friendly to our state of mind, just as much as it’s erotic. The feeling of suspending your cognition as a result of a few moments of pleasure, is not the best way to enjoy adult films.
Adult films can be playful, adult films can be freeing, adult films can make you adore enthusiastic consent, adult films can teach you courtesy, adult films can enlighten you on your sexuality, adult films can crack you up, make you smile and still very much turn you on for adrenaline filled self pleasure.
Let’s make being mindful while watching porn popular.
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