Sex Workers’ Methods for Negotiating Consent Can Be Used in Traditional Dating Too
Who knows better how to navigate consent than those who do it every day as a job?
People often mistakenly believe that as an escort I’m a passive participant during sex. I lay back and let men do whatever they want to me. This simply is not the case.
I’m always an active participant. I have the final say in what goes on during a session. I only engage in sexual activities that have been carefully agreed on before meeting with a client.
Many sex workers conduct their sessions this way. Mistress Eva, a dominatrix, told The Washington Post:
“I never have to hesitate about entering an interaction as a sex worker, because our interaction is always preceded by negotiation and an understanding of our combined desires and limits.”
Sex workers are experts in setting sexual boundaries. It’s integral to our safety and sanity.
Our methods can be used by non-sex workers as well for a better experience in the traditional dating world.
State your limits before you meet.
I would like to note that when I use the term sex worker, I’m referring to those women who have…
