The Fears That Kill Your Threesome Dreams
Four common threesome scares and how to overcome them
Threesomes are high on most people’s sexual bucket lists: According to a 2016 study in the Journal of Sexual Archives, researchers noted 82 percent of men and 31 percent of women were interested in having a threesome. Meanwhile, only 24 percent of men and eight percent of women said they’ve already had a menage a trois.
When they work, threesomes can the epitome of sexual delights. They can be a delicious cherry on top in an already well-oiled sexual dynamic. If you’re the one joining a couple in bed, the experience can feel both adventurous and empowering—and gives you a unique chance to immerse yourself in someone else’s dynamic.
My favorite quote from the sci-fi novel Dune says that “fear is the mind-killer”. I’d also argue that fear is the killer of lots of potential fun and pleasure in the sack. I often hear people talk about how they’d love to have a threesome, but they have all these fears that are holding them back.
I used to have those fears too. I’ve also had some truly outstanding threesome experiences—and a few less-than-great ones. Based on these personal experience I’ve compiled a few classic threesome worries with suggestions for how to overcome them:
