The Science of Why Romance Dies and How to Rekindle the Spark
Science has shown us exactly how to heal a wounded sex drive
Changes in sexual desire are an absolute nightmare, but they’re something we all experience. If you’re in a relationship for long enough, sooner or later, your priorities change.
The full flames of desire are quenched by the cold, sober reality of long-term loving. Security replaces excitement, and next thing you know, you’re all settled down and comfortable. You suddenly feel like your sex life is absent.
Getting in the mood suddenly feels like Sisyphus pushing a rock up a hill for eternity. Your body feels heavier without the rush of hormones to crank your desire into effortless overdrive. Long gone are the days of effortless chats that last all night until you finally pass out before the sun comes up.
You should consider yourself lucky if you don’t enter the “dead bedroom” phase of your relationship or marriage.
A 2017 study that included ages 18 to 89 found that 15.2% of men and 26.7% of women reported not having any sex within the past year. This is a daunting thought for most of us.
Yet, that’s the everyday life for more than a quarter of women.
