The Threesome Fantasy

Sophia An
Sophia An
Feb 12, 2020 · 2 min read
By Priscilla Du Preez on Unsplash

Threesomes, when you’re in a relationship, are not the same as a threesome when you’re single.

For me, a threesome when you’re single is purely about the fantasy. There’s more emphasis on what’s attractive, what isn’t, and what about this is going to make me want to burn it into my mind. Let me just say this: a threesome is always fun but it’s a whole nother level when you aren’t doing it for keeps.

Poly relationships can involve threesomes (depending on the relationship and your comfort levels they definitely, definitely should) but it’s not the same.

A threesome makes me feel like I’m James Bond

There’s something utterly sexy about them. I don’t know what it is. Maybe it’s because it still seems taboo but only because the stigma exists because it’s about having too much fun.

It’s like people can’t accept that you want your cake and to eat it too. Obviously, did you think I was going to build a shelf to put it on display?

Threesomes by nature provide you with a different experience than one on one sex. I don’t mean necessarily because there’s another body but it does stem from that.

What you get is two different perspectives

When someone new puts their hands on you it’s always a learning process. I always find it really fun to explore how my partner(s) act. No person goes about doing anything exactly the same.

Even kissing two people can be incredibly different. I love learning to kiss with someone new. Being able to kiss two different people at once is amazing.

I’m not saying emotionless sex is better or worse but there’s a reckless excitement to knowing this is a “one-off” so to speak. It’s seeing two people who are simply treating you as center stage because you excite them as much as you’re aroused by them.

It’s easy to make things complicated

But it doesn’t have to be. I’ve heard threesomes can be a relationship killer but that just falls back on why you wanted to be in a threesome to begin with.

Threesomes are only as weird and as scary as you want them to be. For some, it’s just a fantasy and that’s okay too.

But if you’re going to take a leap of faith it can be seriously worth it.

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Sophia An

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Sophia An

Writer, artist, book lover. Shakespeare said “look like the innocent flower but be the serpent under it.” Someone help me be the flower.

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Writer, artist, book lover. Shakespeare said “look like the innocent flower but be the serpent under it.” Someone help me be the flower.

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