The Ultimate Threesome is All in the Mind

Four rules to execute the perfect threesome

T.J. Johansson
Mar 26, 2020 · 7 min read
Photo by Alex Azabache on Unsplash

I sat in a dark grey suit and white shirt, in the pristine bar of the Dorchester in London. It was 15.30. As ordered Scarlette had arrived. She kissed the side of my cheek. I asked her to slowly turn around. I inspected her closely to see if she had executed my request of tight short black dress, black stockings, a thong, black heels, pink nails, lips and a small black clutch bag.

As ever she had done exactly as ordered. The tight dress acknowledged the imprint of the thong on her perfect dancer's buttocks. She sat to my left with a beautiful posture. I ordered her a glass of Prosecco. I knew she preferred the Italian bubbles to the French.

Scarlette had been my submissive friend with zero strings attached for a long time. Today I was about to deliver the perfect threesome and I knew, like every other scene I had put together, I had to be calm, assertive and sharp in my mind.

My sexual preference as a dom had evolved over many years. It became more and more sophisticated as time went by. My desire was to create visual and sensual memories that lasted a lifetime. A sexual tattoo on the deeper levels of my soul.

I knew what worked and the fine line between domination and humiliation was never crossed. All women are beautiful, to be respected and cherished.

Overtime, I discovered that patience and eliminating the idea of penetrative sex in a threesome were crucial to creating the essential ingredients of trust and respect.

Penetration can be fleeting, lasting only minutes. Whereas, sexual pleasure and heightened desire can last hours and stay with you forever. What was about to unfold would take three people on a life experience never to be forgotten. One to remember when we were old — one to close the eyes and savour.

Create a sense of theatre, dress well, smell great and most importantly choose a neutral venue. You can hire a 5-star hotel for the day at very reasonable rates.

If you nominate someone’s house or bedroom, they will have a deeply ingrained association with that space. This will influence their behavior. A blank canvas produces new art and a unique expression of sexual experience. A beautiful hotel instantly immerses everyone into the fantasy about to unfold.

It stands to reason that having a sharp suit — one that actually fits well and is tailored so the sleeves reveal the exact right amount of shirt, the trousers hang on the shoes perfectly and your tie is knotted symmetrically — is an essential part of being the ‘boss’ of a situation. After all, this is your show. You will set the pace and create the atmosphere. It is pure theatre.

My experiences up until this late June afternoon had taught me to be organized and well-rehearsed to the start line. Scarlette knew her role and she loved being told what to do. She sipped the prosecco and we engaged in polite conversation.

We both waited for the third and most important member of our trio, Penelope. I had met Penelope on a specific website which allowed women to pursue their sexual fantasies, safely and privately. I’d been chatting online for over two months with her. I believed somethings were worth waiting for. Plus, trust has to be earned.

Neither me, nor Scarlette had ever met Penelope in person. She was coming in blind to the Dorchester bar. I gave her a reasonable set of rules, which we were all aware of. She entered the bar. A contrast to Scarlette with her short blond hair, blue eyes and a slim size 6, she oozed confidence.

Penelope was dressed as requested, exactly like Scarlette. And as agreed, she was greeted by Scarlette with a kiss on both cheeks, and to me, a kiss on the lips. My hand held her tight waist for a moment.

Should the next thirty minutes go well, we would be catapulted into a haze of sexual beauty and chemistry. It was clear and a relief that both women got on immediately.

I ordered Penelope a vodka lime and soda. The waiter, in the presence of such beautiful women, delayed a moment too long. I ushered him away, there were to be no distractions. I continued to observe the flowing conversation of the two women. I watched as they developed a sense of trust.

I ordered another round of drinks. Alcohol in moderation, allows people to feel relaxed. It elevates hormone levels to the right sexual peak and evaporates any inhibitions.

I allowed myself to relax. Everything was going well. A successful threesome is like a game of chess, as the conductor, I had to be a few moves ahead at all times.

After thirty minutes I asked Penelope the most important question of the afternoon -

“Do you want to play or pass?”

I waited calmly for her reply. If the answer was pass, she would politely leave and I would never contact her again. If the answer was play she would sit with me whilst Scarlette, went to the hotel room to prepare herself and the room.

This is a critical part of your threesome success. Yes, be attracted but not emotionally attached. Have the courage to talk to both parties openly about exactly what you want. Check they are in agreement. This has to be their sexual fantasy too. No strings attached and no repercussions.

Do not have a threesome with your girlfriend or wife. I see it a lot and as much as all parties convince each other that it’s cool, the ultimate price of trust crashes out of the window. In time, it will divide you as a couple not bring you together.

“Play,” Penelope smiled. The answer had been evident from the beginning. But even so, I was relieved. With this answer, Scarlette, stood up, leaned forward and kissed Penelope deeply, her left hand gently touching the side of Penelope’s face.

Then as instructed, Scarlette turned and kissed me passionately. I could see Penelope’s eyes sparkle. Her smile was rich and spontaneous.

Everything from the initial internal messaging on the various websites, to the exit from the threesome, was planned in super detail. Yes, I know spontaneous threesomes are possible. There are times when you could be in a club, everyone high on life and suddenly it may all click together.

But, being in total control of every element gives you time to truly savour every second. I had given both women-specific instructions based on my relationship with them and the levels of trust we shared.

From my experience, people like to be lead. In fact, most women enjoy relinquishing control completely. Of course, once we tripped over the last piece of the set up puzzle, what ensued was totally spontaneous and deeply satisfying.

I handed Scarlette the room key. She had four minutes to reach the room on the 5th floor. She knew exactly what to do, we had gone over it many times before today.

I glanced at my watch. It was 16.04. The day hiring of the room ran out at 18.00. Everything was going to plan. As I imagined each step Scarlette took towards room 517, I felt myself getting more and more turned on.

I gestured to Penelope to sit next me. As she rose I caught a slither of her stocking top. She sat super close, her hips touching mine. I kissed her. Thank god, they both kissed well. For some, this was a minor detail, but for me, it was a hugely important component of the threesome.

Whatever was to be played out in the next few hours, would be a life experience. And after witnessing the chemistry between Penelope and Scarlette, I knew it wouldn’t be a one off.

At 16.08, I held Penelope’s hand and headed for the elevator. We were suddenly plunged into the real world again whilst the elevator climbed to the 5th floor. I love the silence of strangers in an elevator. It’s as if the world stands still whilst moving.

I knew Scarlette would have set the room up perfectly. There would be low lighting and subtle music. She would be kneeling on the bed with her back to the door. Her dress would be hitched up to reveal her stocking tops and her hands would be gently placed behind her back.

As the elevator door opened, I walked quickly along the corridor with Penelope to the room. She gripped my hand tightly. I paused at room 517. I took a deep breath and tapped the key on the handle. It clicked open.

It took me a few seconds to adjust to the low lighting. Scarlette had nailed it. I moved to the armchair at the far side of the room where a glass of Bordeaux was waiting for me.

I sat back on the leather armchair and took a slow sip of wine. I didn’t need to tell Penelope what to do. She climbed onto the bed, slipped the strap of Scarlette’s dress over her tanned shoulder and kissed her.

We are taught as men for most of our lives that certain sexual situations need to be ticked off. A threesome for whatever reason is part of this essential bucket list.

I remember when I was 19 and a fumbled attempt with my then-girlfriend and her best mate ended with me sitting on the sofa in despair. I couldn’t get my head around it. We broke up soon after.

What I could see in the room now was wonderfully sexual, beautiful and atmospheric. I was happy to sip my wine and take my time. I would drink it all in and if appropriate I’d have sex with them. But, frankly, it wasn’t important.

After all, if the end game was for me to cum, then I’d save myself a whole lot of hassle by simply masturbating. What was important was gaining the trust and confidence of two beautiful and intelligent women and putting them together in the same room to enjoy their own sexual exploration.

Amazing sex is all in the mind. It pays to be completely prepared, organized, immaculately dressed, patient and emotionally unattached. So, keep composed, savor the present moment and remember, sex is not the end game. Achieving trust, connection and passion will be your route to the ultimate threesome.

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T.J. Johansson

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Prize winning author. Men’s sexual health, confidence & mental health. Erotica. Artist. https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08NZYJY2D/ref=cm_sw_r_tw_d

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Prize winning author. Men’s sexual health, confidence & mental health. Erotica. Artist. https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08NZYJY2D/ref=cm_sw_r_tw_d

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