Understanding Consensual Non-Consent
Fantasies of being taken have nothing to do with real-life rape- and they’re a lot more common than you might think.
I don’t remember the first time I had a fantasy that involved dominance and force. I was about 12 when I started to discover my sexuality, and in the years between 8th and 10th grade I bent down the pages of novels to mark the sexy parts.
Then came the internet, and access to erotica. I read sexy stories far before I ever discovered video based porn. I’m sure I still have a folder somewhere full of the bootleg erotica I printed out when my parents weren’t home, crossing my fingers they’d be gone until I had it safely spirited away from the printer.
I didn’t know that there were other women that got turned on by movies or dreams that involved kidnapping or rape.
At some point, I discovered non-consent/reluctance stories. For over a decade, I never told anybody how those stories piqued my interest. I didn’t know that there were other women that got turned on by movies or dreams that involved kidnapping or rape. Even now, 25 years later and with a wide base of knowledge about sex, kink, and fantasy, it feels risky to type it here.
