What Actually is Pegging?

Am I the only one who doesn’t know?

Matilda Swinney
May 13, 2020 · 4 min read
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Ahem, so guys, I have to confess something big, I don’t know what pegging is. I’m a sex writer, a sexaholic and a super fan of masturbation. My sex drive is through the roof, so how on earth do I not know what pegging is?

I literally have no idea. I’ve seen the word everywhere recently. At first I thought it meant pulling someones trousers down in unexpected places as a kind of prank or sexual turn on. But, I had to write that off as silly.

Then I thought, is it sitting on someone’s face? But, no, we already have a term for that, that’s teabagging isn’t it? Oh dear, cue the overwhelming confusion of too much technical sex chat.

So, I turned to trusty Wikopedia. Here’s what I found out (which you probably know already):

“Pegging is a sexual practice in which a woman performs anal sex on a man by penetrating his anus with a strap-on dildo. This practice may also involve stimulating the male genitalia”.

Hurrah! The mystery has been revealed.

And it turns out, it wasn’t just me who didn’t know. Marie Claire says, “When surveyed, 45% of couples didn’t know what it meant”.

But, that doesn’t stop it from being super popular. Marie Claire also reports, sex-toy retailer Lovehoney sales of strap-ons increased by nearly 200% in 2016 and have continued at a steady rate since then.

I have a confession. I was shocked. Anal sex for the man, in an otherwise heterosexual relationship? Well, surely the guy is gay? I mean this is one step further than a cheeky finger up the ass. Imagine being with your boyfriend for ages and finding out he enjoys anal sex. Surely, the relationship is doomed?

Plus, as a girl who likes her man to take control in the bedroom do I really want to be penetrating my boyfriend?

According to Kimberly McBride, PhD, associate professor of Public Health at the University of Toledo, I couldn’t be more wrong, “Once upon a time, our society decided that anal sex automatically means “gay sex,” but that is not always the case.”

Joe Kort, PhD, a certified sex therapist in Royal Oak, Michigan, explains,

So, maybe, I am more close minded than I thought. And perhaps, I’m seriously missing out. Because, it sounds like the pleasures that come with pegging are bountiful.

Break gender norms

Kimberly McBride explains, “Pegging violates traditional gender scripts in which the woman is generally assumed to be the receiving partner, while the man is the inserting partner. It’s this “flipping the script” situation that entices many peggin’ partners.”

Pegging is a chance for the woman to be in total control. And, hey you get to see sex from a whole other perspective. Suddenly, it’s you taking your partner from behind. You grabbing their hips and thrusting and you controlling the speed and intensity. It’s time to be in the driving seat of pleasure.

Give G-spot ecstasy

And there’s a whole lot of pleasure to be had. G-spot orgasms aren’t reserved for women. We all have the potential and it just so happens, pegging is one of the best ways to make this a reality.

The G-spot for a man is found between the base of a guy’s penis and rectum (the prostate). Women’s Health explain, “A strap on dildo has the power to reach and massage this walnut-sized gland… Pegging can also stimulate the many erotic nerve endings in the anus and rectum. The result? An eruption of different orgasms.”

Giving your partner the same intense pleasure you’ve experienced during the wonderful waves of a G-spot orgasm, sounds like a no brainer.

Relish the novelty

And, Ian Kerner PhD, sex therapist and author of She Comes First, believes it doesn’t stop there.

“The psychological pleasures of pegging rival (and possibly transcend) the physical pleasures… the switching and subversion of gender roles, the playing with power, and the novelty of a woman wearing a penis can all be a massive turn on for a man.”

Plus, Kerner continues, “Novelty stimulates dopamine transmission, a neurotransmitter that plays a big role in sexual excitement and arousal.”

So, relish in the novelty of trying a new sex act as a couple, which breaks gender norms, brings an intense G-spot orgasm (while stimulating your clit, depending on the strap-on you have chosen) and a big rush of dopamine.

Or if like me, you’re adamant you don’t want to be dominant in the bedroom and have more traditional views than you realised, sit this one out and risk missing the wonderful pleasures it clearly brings.

I hope you enjoyed my writing! Follow me on Twitter to stay in touch.

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