What’s your fantasy?
Exploring the dark depths of our minds
The room is dimly lit, with candlelight dancing on the nearest wall as you kneel between the legs of your lover whose hands are in your hair and head in your mouth. He tells you exactly what will happen next, as another man approaches you from behind and lifts your short skirt up so that your bare butt is exposed to the glow of the night.
This is a fantasy of submission. Of a lover who invites a third to give pleasure while she submits to his every plea.
Fantasies, of course, don’t just come in the erotic form. They evolve throughout our lives. As a kid, we fantasize that our parent’s bed is a sinking ship, and we have to save our friends from falling off the bed, ahem, I mean drowning.
As we become teenagers, our fantasies become more nuanced and, often, more private. Crushes on classmates and the thrill of stolen glances fill our daydreams.
And in adulthood, our fantasies often become more explicit, like being taken by two lovers. And if that’s yours, you are not alone.
Turns out, our sexual desires are far from unique. Justin Lehmiller, a social psychologist and research fellow at the Kinsey Institute, conducted one of the largest studies to date on sexual fantasy and found the majority of our fantasies fall into…
