Sexual issues

When Painful Sex Gets In The Way of Intimacy

Saying ‘no’ to sex isn’t always because of a headache.

Karin Blak
Sexography
Published in
4 min readJan 12, 2020

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We all know that women don’t necessarily have to be turned on to have sexual intercourse. It isn’t a specifically pleasant experience if we are not aroused, but imagine wanting sex, feeling aroused yet every time you try, it is so painful the experience results in complete avoidance of intimacy or close physical contact.

One of the many causes of vaginal pain during intercourse is vaginal atrophy. And guys, don’t turn away now, this affects you as much as it does your female partner. If your partner begins to avoid intimacy, you need to understand that it could be caused by more than a headache.

Potential causes of vaginal atrophy:

  • Trauma (including rape)
  • Accidents
  • Operations
  • Childbirth
  • The menopause

With the prospect of sex, women who suffer with vaginal atrophy worry that an erect penis will cause pain rather than pleasure. Consequently, their sex drive falls flat on the floor and they push away opportunities for physical closeness. Although the condition can affect women of any age, it is mainly after the menopause it’s…

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Karin Blak
Sexography

Author of The Essential Companion to Talking Therapy, Watkins Publishing. Therapy, society, relationships, true stories and fiction. www.karinblak.co.uk