Why Do Men Want to Have Sex With Women?

And why do women want to have sex with men? The answers are different.

Christine Stevens
Apr 18, 2020 · 4 min read
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Men want to have sex with women consciously because it feels good, and unconsciously because it will form a bond with a mate — which will prove useful in an evolutionary sense because it will aide in childrearing.

Women want to have sex with men consciously because they want to form a bond with a mate, and unconsciously because it feels good.

In other words, it is exactly the opposite.

Now I know women are going to object and say there is no way that I want to have sex in order to bear children— I take birth control pills! But consciously even if you are not intending to reproduce, you are intending to attract a mate into a bond that perhaps later will result in reproduction.

The Difference is Hormonal

“While women’s desire for sex may be prompted by their mind, memory, or emotional feelings of connection, for men desire is physical. Men have massive amounts of testosterone coursing through their bodies, pushing and driving them toward sexual expression.” (Psychology Today)

The difference between testosterone and estrogen is enormous. Talk to women who are transitioning, and they all report the same thing after beginning their testosterone treatments: “I get it now. I want to fuck everything I see.”

Now, that is somewhat of an exaggeration of course, but you get the point. Men are sexually stimulated by the slightest things — a glimpse of ankle! This constant state of stimulation is nature’s way to keep men reproducing.

Estrogen, on the other hand, leaves women craving emotional connection. Again, talk to transitioning men who start taking estrogen. “I get it now. I get all weepy when the Save the Children commercial comes on.”

You might think this is some old-fashioned cis-gendered analysis of genders that are actually socially constructed, but the biological facts of testosterone and estrogen cannot be denied. The results of these hormone treatments are well documented and they all point to an undeniable conclusion — men and women really are from different planets. It might not be Mars and Venus, however. It’s “Planet Fuck Everything” versus “Planet Fuck Selectively.”

This is a brilliant evolutionary design. By making the women selective, certain traits can, as evolutionists describe it, be “selected out.”

Unfortunately, the trait that millions of years of female mating habits have selected FOR is not a good trait. Let’s face it, we have had millennia of male domination, right? So what trait must female homo sapiens have preferred in their mates over the eons? Dominance. The evidence? Human history — almost entirely male-dominated everywhere and always, at least for the last few thousand years. (NOTE: if you respond here with an example of a matriarchal society, thank you very much. I am aware that there are examples of this. That’s why I used the word “almost.”)

Dominance is Your Preference Even if You say it Isn’t

Now I know a woman. I will call her Bossy Dolly. She is an awesome person, one of my closest friends. She always drives. Her husband sits in the passenger seat. She is the alpha — so alpha! He is extremely soft-spoken and passive. He is the beta.

And yet, I will submit to you that Bossy Dolly has selected him for his dominance.


Daniel is the least traditionally “dominant” man I’ve ever met. And yet, in blue states anyway, this gentle form of masculinity is indeed becoming the “dominant” version of maleness.

For instance, in this post MeToo era, the dominant male isn’t the Harvey Weinstein, bullying and fucking everything in sight. It is the Ronan Farrow, toppling the pock-marked king from his throne of lies, and substituting a new, feminist, gentle yet strong and true-to-his convictions male. The modern dominant. What used to be called metrosexual. It is now called woke. Yes, the model for the dominant male in 2020 might indeed be a gay man!

You see, it’s not dominance over females that the females were selecting for when they chose their mates — it was dominance over the other males.

This is the secret code that unlocks a primitive and a modern woman’s heart — that she perceives strength in the male. Otherwise, her children will be eaten by the other strong males.

Today a strong male is perceived in Los Angeles as one who is OK with his emotions, not racist, intelligent, willing to listen to her, and treats her not as an object but as a fellow human being. He might not dominate her, but you can bet your ass he dominates the discussion if it ever becomes climate-change-denying, chauvinistic or prejudiced in any way. And if anyone ever mentions Trump he will have a shit fit. He is the modern liberal dominant millennial. And he is what we modern liberal crypto-submissive females will select every time. Why do I say crypto? Because we never let anybody else see that we submit to him.

But when he is balls deep in us, wow, do we ever! There is nothing like getting railed super hard and super long by a big-dicked woke climate change warrior.

I love my own version of this. He is called Aron. I act like I boss him around, but every so often it occurs to me that he’s got me right where he wants me, this sneaky fucker.

And so the dance continues. In a few minutes I’m going to order him in here to eat my pussy.

(Because I get the unconscious feeling that ordering him to eat my pussy is exactly what this nondominant dominating man wants me to do.)

And the dance continues…


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Christine Stevens

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Funny lady, writer of satire and sex, intellectual kickboxer, sapiosexual surfer, proud Californian, language doctor and lover of Medium!


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Funny lady, writer of satire and sex, intellectual kickboxer, sapiosexual surfer, proud Californian, language doctor and lover of Medium!


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