Why Men Who Master Sexual Self-Restraint Are So Irresistible

Delay gratification to blow her mind—and double the reward

Ena Dahl
Sexography
Published in
8 min readFeb 10, 2021

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Don’t we all just love raw, untamed, animalistic lust, unleashed; to be held down, rendered breathless, yet panting all at once? To be taken, with such passion, it almost looks violent. They must have you! Right now! There is NO holding back!

[Sigh…]

Few things are hotter than unbridled desire; being wanted so badly by your lover that they simply can’t constrain themselves.

There is one thing though… namely bridled desire or self-restraint: To be wanted so badly by your lover they can barely constrain themselves, but, they choose to anyway; not letting any of you have it. Not yet, at least…

Why? Well, let me tell you…

Before I started exploring BDSM a few years back, I’d never encountered a man who possessed the true power of self-restraint. No one had really held back but always went for it—the very moment the window of opportunity opened. I never really understood why, when sex was something most seemed to covet, were we in such a rush to get it over with?

I’ve since highlighted and written about many things that anyone, kinky or not, can learn from the so-called deviants: Clear, in-depth…

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Ena Dahl
Sexography

Multidisciplinary creatrix; conscious kink & sensuality coach, educator, author, energy worker & rope (s)witch.