Why You Should Talk About Sex on the First Date
Knowing and communicating our needs is the safest way to make sure they’re met
When I started dating again, almost three years ago, I quickly learned to be vocal about my sexual needs and desires. A few months in, I started bringing up sex almost immediately—sometimes before we even met in person, and always before the end of the first date—if I saw it going somewhere.
Does this mean that I always ended up in bed with them? Absolutely not. But, it has spared me many potential dead-ends, and—it has brought me the most fulfilling and mind-expanding sexual experiences of my life.
Talking about sex doesn’t imply that you’re up for it
I said talk about and not have sex on the first date. How long we prefer to wait until we do is our individual choice—and also something we should bring up as early as possible.
We all have our unique needs and preferences, which might differ depending on what we’re looking for. All of them are valid, and, all of these should be talked about:
—What do you like? How do you like it? And what are you looking for?
When meeting and getting to know someone new, we ask similar questions about everything…
