Cuck-a-Doodle-Do, Let’s Find One For You
Dealing with polyamory honestly
“this is a predicament many women face all the time because it’s a lot of fun to fuck other men when you are married but a lot of husbands don’t really understand that”
Someone wrote to me the other day and asked if my husband was aware of the other men in my life. I was sort of dumbfounded by the question and then it dawned on me that maybe I am not completely normal by the standards of some people. That’s OK. I am from New York; I live in London and I’ve never really considered myself abnormal but, now in retrospect, I can see how some might see me as being a bit of an outlier.
I am in three different relationships with monogamous men and, being that I am non-monogamous, that technically makes them cuckolds. It’s not a term I use often but it does have a nice ring to it. My ex-husband was a cuckold as well. I don’t purposely collect cucks, I make them, and to do that is a lot easier than one would think. They are all aware of each other but it’s not like a happy club. They’ve never met and never will.
It’s a lot more fun to be married to a cuckold than not. Every woman would benefit from the sort of marriages and relationships I have because I can carry on life without the guilt of betrayal haunting me. Everything in my life sort of fell in place at different times and things just happened and one day I had three men in love with me, as I was with them.
I am not living some poly woman’s fantasy life filled with ‘compersion’ where all the men share a bed with me and I’ve stopped shaving my legs and under my arms because my men just want the natural me. It’s the opposite of that. There’s jealousy and competition galore and I am spoiled beyond belief. You might think that it can’t last and you’re probably right, but it’s lasted a long time already and nobody wants to jump ship.
Two of my lovers are younger than me and one is my same age. They are all successful and they are good looking enough to find a beautiful woman who would want only them. Why wouldn’t they do that? It’s been ten years with Brian, six years with Sinjen and five years with Patrick. Two of them, by necessity, sleep alone each night and only one gets to be with me. That’s inherently unfair and most men wouldn’t accept it, but some do.
I know why. A lot of marriages die on the vine out of boredom because neither partner, or just one of the two, grows and expands their universe and becomes more interesting and exciting and the other doesn’t. Each of my lovers has to vie for a place in my life and none of them are bored by me in the slightest. I enjoy sex with all of them for different reasons. Brian adores me and worships my body, Sinjen is kinky as hell and Patrick has the kind of body and cock that is just overwhelming.
Beyond sex, the three men in my life are interesting, intelligent and very good-looking and I love the jealous looks I get from other women when I am with one of them. I lead a pretty interesting life that was borne out of a degree of luck and knowing what I wanted.
I entered into my marriage with Brian over ten years ago on the premise that our relationship was open on my part but not on his. We both knew that was the only way it would work. Not many men would marry a woman on such a basis, but a lot of men can be convinced post marriage to have the same arrangement I have.
Let’s look at two scenarios that could happen to any happily married woman in the world. Let’s assume you’ve been married to Bill for two years and you’re happy but a bit bored. The sex is OK but a little too vanilla for your tastes and it’s not as frequent as you’d like. And there’s an underlying resentment festering inside you because you feel Bill is beginning to take you for granted, but you still love him, and you’re committed to your marriage. You just wish you could spice things up a bit.
You wake one morning and linger over coffee after Bill left early for work. Your phone pings with a text and when you open it up you find it is from your ex-boyfriend, Roger, who you haven’t heard from in four years. Something inside you flutters. You haven’t thought about Roger in years. You had a wild relationship with him before you met Bill, but he disappeared to take a job in Africa. He’s back in town for a week and wants to take you out to lunch. You text back saying you are married now and don’t think it would be appropriate to which he replies, ‘it’s just lunch’. After a moment’s thought, you decide why not, and you accept his offer.
You quickly run into the bedroom and change your blouse and skirt and slip on a pair of heels, instead of the flats you normally wear to work. When you arrive at the office you inform your boss that you’ve got a few last-minute absolutely essential appointments so you’ll be taking the afternoon off. What you haven’t admitted to yourself yet is that you are going to let Roger seduce you today but it’s there in the back of your mind giving you a tingling sense of excitement throughout the morning. You haven’t given a thought to your husband, Bill, since you received the text from Roger.
Finally, noontime arrives, and you run out to your car, adjust the rear-view mirror to check your makeup and you drive to the hotel restaurant where you are meeting Roger. You’re actually trembling with excitement because this is the first time in the years since you married Bill that you are contemplating something naughty. The maître d’ shows you to the table that Roger reserved, and your former boyfriend gets up with a big smile and kisses you on the cheek. It’s been four years since you’ve seen him, and he looks fantastic. Lean, tanned and dressed in a suit that looks tailor-made, he is everything that Bill isn’t. He’s worldly, confident and witty. Within fifteen minutes you know where the afternoon is going, and you don’t feel a shred of guilt about it.
Any observant diner in the restaurant would be able to see what was happening at your table. The wedding ring on your finger, the absence of one on Roger’s, the way you both look at each other and the brief kiss you gave him on his lips, all clear evidence that you are about to be seduced by someone who isn’t your husband. Unbeknownst to you, a female work colleague of your husband’s is also in the same restaurant and is keenly observing your behavior and the way you left after lunch, holding hands with a handsome, well-dressed stranger. She rightly surmised that you are up to no good and in righteous indignation, she decides to inform Bill about your behavior.
The afternoon is everything you wanted sex to be like in your marriage. Roger took you twice in ways your husband never had. You didn’t even consider using protection because you always fucked Roger bareback in the past. His cum is deep inside you as you redo your makeup in the hotel room toilet and give Roger one final kiss before you take the elevator down to the lobby. Your phone pings with a message. You fish it out of your purse and open it, shocked to find it’s from your husband. Your face is flushed and your heart skips a beat when you read it: ‘you’re a fucking filthy slut’.
Scenario 1.
You text back your husband immediately with feigned anger and ask him take back the ‘filthy’ part of the slut accusation and remind him that he asked you to fuck around and you only did what you did this afternoon to make him happy and add an emoji or two.
You smile at yourself and put the phone back in your purse and think about spending tomorrow night with Roger.
Scenario 2.
You panic.
Now, this is a predicament many women face all the time because it’s a lot of fun to fuck other men when you are married but a lot of husbands don’t really understand that. If you had trained your husband to be a happy cuckold, the correct response to the text would be a simple yes but if you hadn’t, then the next few weeks are going to be hell. Convincing your husband that being a cuckold is a lot of fun isn’t that hard, because it is a barrel of fun and keeps a marriage exciting.
Turning a normal loving husband into a normal loving cuckold is actually pretty easy. Every man wants to know about his wife’s previous sex life and most women are reluctant to share those details because they are idiots. What men inherently know is that it is a lot more intimate to take a cock inside your pussy or suck a prick than be the other partner. Being fucked is a lot sexier than fucking someone. That is the reality that drives jealousy. When a woman spreads her legs for a man she is surrendering to him and, unless a man has been taught about the eroticism of having their wives do that with other men than they won’t react well when they find out their spouse has been carrying on behind their backs.
Sharing the details about your sexual history in complete honesty with your husband is the first step in the process because he’ll get rock hard when you whisper all the dirty details in his ear. Once you feel that reaction from him you are only one step away from getting, not only his approval, but his enthusiastic encouragement to take other lovers. From that point on discuss every man you meet with your husband in terms of their sexual attraction and openly admit it when you see a man, you would fuck at the drop of a hat. Never encourage him to do likewise with women you meet. The sexuality in your marriage should be all about you.
Move from pillow talk to morning coffee talk. Don’t just talk in bed about other men, make it part of your conversations all day long. Play games with him. Drive to a different town or city for dinner and drinks and make him wait in the car for fifteen minutes while you go into a bar and have a drink by yourself. When you’re with your husband surreptitiously attract the attention of other, handsome men. Change your clothes, wear shorter skirts and heels or tight jeans with heels. Be flirty if a stranger comes over. On the drive back, tell your husband to pull over in a dark spot and give him a blow job and tell him you are horny because a handsome man was leering at you all night. Make your sex dirty and adventurous and bring up the subject of other men often.
In a month or two he’ll be begging you to have affairs. Make it clear that it’s his choice and you’ll never reciprocate but you’ll promise him to make it as sexy as possible for him too. Then very carefully choose your victim.
