Master the Art of Pussy Massage in 5 Steps

You will make a woman feel very lucky and special with you tonight.

Hakima T A N T R I K A
Apr 3 · 7 min read

Babe, would you like to know how to make a woman feels very lucky and special with you tonight? In this article, I will walk with you step-by-step through the art of the pussy massage.

A pussy massage is a powerful tool that any man can master to:

1/ Bond and establish trust with his partner;

2/ Open her up and clear out any blockages to her sexuality;

3/ As a result, have a better sexual relationship.

A pussy massage — also called yoni massage — is a selfless act of giving that can bring you and your woman closer. The end goal is not the orgasm, yet it can be an experience of both intense pleasure and healing.

The clitoris has more than 8,000 sensitive nerve endings, which is twice as many nerve endings as in the penis. It is the primary source of female pleasure. When stimulated, it can bring your woman close to orgasm.

In this article, I am going to guide you with 5 steps to prepare for a pussy massage, and teach you 3 techniques to help you master this practice.

5 Steps for a Successful Pussy Massage

Step 1: Set up the space

Prepare a mat on the floor or lay out a towel on a bed. Add cushions and blankets. You want to create a cocoon that will help you and your partner feel cozy.

Make sure that you have enough lubricant handy. Use your favorite massage oil. Personally, I recommend using pure virgin coconut oil.

The room must have the right temperature and coziness. You don’t want you or your partner to freeze during the massage so turn on the heater if needed.

Soften the lights or light candles and turn on your best massage music playlist. I recommend this Erotic Tantra Music.

If you want, your partner can use an eye mask. It will help add an element of sensory deprivation, which heightens the experience.

Make sure that you are sitting in a comfortable position and you are in a positive mindset.

Step 2: Think of an intention

Before inviting your partner in, set your intention. It can be as simple as committing to be at the service of your partner or to help her reach a deep state of relaxation.

Orgasm should not be the intention.

Step 3: Open up the space

Now that you are in the right mindset and in a cozy space, invite your partner to the bed.

Put a pillow underneath her sacrum to elevate her pussy and help with the massage.

Share your intention with your partner and reassure her that she doesn’t have to reach an orgasm. This will warm up her mind and help her relax.

Step 4: Connect with her body

You want to connect physically and mentally with your woman before the pussy massage. This is an important step that will help her to be present in her body and to reach a state of deep relaxation.

Once your partner relaxes on the bed, position yourself between her legs. Make sure that you are both comfortable.

Place your left hand on the middle of her chest and your right hand over her pussy without moving.

Breathe deeply and mentally connect with her. Be fully present.

Step 5: Open her up

Finally, drop some of the massage oil on her chest and her belly.

Start with a gentle stroke on the thighs, all the way up to her belly without touching her pussy. Continue upward to her breasts and her nipples.

Run your fingers through her hair. This will increase her levels of dopamine and oxytocin, the hormones responsible for her arousal.

Lastly, spread lubricant over her pussy with your whole hand, from bottom to top and tap her intimate area in a gentle way.

These are the 5 steps to prepare for the pussy massage. Now, keep in mind that it can take up to 30 minutes for your woman to fully open up. So be really patient and remember the intention you’ve set up at the beginning. It is not about the destination, it is about the journey.

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Now, let's dive into the techniques of a pussy massage. But before I share 3 massage techniques that will help you be a better lover, remember these 4 rules :

1/ Go slow;

2/ Go soft;

3/ Always ask for permission before massaging her pussy;

4/ Relax while you appreciate watching her reaction.

3 techniques for powerful and orgasmic pussy massages.

Technique #1: Vulva massage

You will massage her vulva, which includes her clitoris, her outer lips, and her perineum, the area between her pussy and anus.

Take more lubricant and slide from her hips down across her vulva, one hand after the other.

Reach her clitoris and massage it with featherlight fingers. Draw small circles around it then stroke up and down.

You want to stroke her vulva with your whole palm in lush slow circles, with the clit at the center of your palm.

This is an incredibly valuable stroke as women have a lot of erogenous zones along the vulva. You are now activating them with this technique and it can be very juicy and electric.

You might notice high states of arousal in your partner. Witness her but stay grounded. Slowly stop the movement if she seems to the point of orgasm. We are not there yet.

Technique #2: Labia massage

Now, start massaging her labia, which are her outer and inner vaginal lips. Be gentle and slow; it is not a race.

You can suggest for her to rock back and forth, do small hips circles, or arch her back.

Put one finger at the opening of her pussy without penetrating.

If she is ready, she will absorb you in naturally with her pelvic muscles without any effort.

Now, if that doesn’t happen, you can ask her if it is okay to put your fingers inside of her pussy.

  • If she refuses, you can go back to a full body massage or a vulva massage.
  • If she says yes, start slowly exploring the entrance of her pussy.

Draw small circles on the upper wall of her pussy, going deeper with each circle.

You will eventually reach her G-spot which brings us to the third pussy massage technique.

Technique #3: G-spot massage

The G-spot is a powerful point of pleasure, about 2 inches or so inside the pussy opening, on the upper vaginal wall.

At this stage of the massage, you might feel it slightly swollen or bumpy.

Stroke it with your fingers and press like you would press a button, up and down. Then rub the G-spot in a circular motion and finish with a ‘come here’ motion.

Since climax is not the goal of a pussy massage, she may or may not reach orgasm.

If you want to add a unique healing experience, gently stroke her vulva with one hand. Press the G-spot with the other hand using one or two fingers. Encourage your partner to breathe deeply and feel where you are pressing. You want to apply light pressure in a circle.

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Now you know the basics of giving your partner the experience of a pussy massage. And you’ve learned 3 powerful techniques you can master to be a better lover.

Let me remind you of 3 important points:

Point 1: The end goal is not the orgasm

A pussy massage is not goal-oriented. It is not about the orgasm but rather about giving your woman an experience of deep relaxation. An orgasm is a bonus.

Point 2: A pussy massage is not a transaction, so give without expectation

I know you might expect something in exchange. But let me warn you: you might not get anything in return.

A pussy massage doesn’t involve intercourse. And it is only because your woman knows that nothing is expected from her that she will be able to completely let go. This can be incredible to witness.

Point 3: A pussy massage can create an intense reaction in your partner

Your woman might start crying, show a bit of fear, make sounds or go wild. She might have a healing experience and that is amazing. Accept it. You want to encourage her to feel fully and to express.

So, babe, I encourage you to try a pussy massage tonight, and I promise you’ll have a very happy woman. If you like my article or if you have any further questions, please let me know.

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Hakima T A N T R I K A

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Sex, Love, & Relationship Coach, Writer, Educator ❤ Currently exploring erotic fiction www.hakimatantrika.com

Sexual Tendencies

Looking at Sex in All of its Human Glory

Hakima T A N T R I K A

Written by

Sex, Love, & Relationship Coach, Writer, Educator ❤ Currently exploring erotic fiction www.hakimatantrika.com

Sexual Tendencies

Looking at Sex in All of its Human Glory

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