Hate Your Story? Here Are Eight Steps to Rebooting Your Life!

Learn eight decisive steps to a new mindset and the ultimate life reboot.

Marcia Hylton | Travel Writer & Move-Abroad Coach

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She’s Unbound

5 min readNov 18, 2018

As children, we learn many habits, beliefs, and rituals that we take into adulthood. Some of these behaviors serve us well, while others create barriers to our personal progress and professional success. Though we aren’t responsible for all the awful lessons we might have learned during our youth, we are ultimately accountable for our adult choices and habits.

So, what happens when much of what you learned was essential to your childhood survival but is now hindering your ability to thrive?

You can start again. Here are eight steps to help you launch your new mindset.

1. Write A Deeply Meaningful Love Letter To Yourself

Grab a pen and paper, turn on some relaxing music, get comfortable, and prepare to write the most profound and meaningful letter of your life. Try to recall your childhood hopes and dreams as you begin to write.

Write about the level of commitment you will make to yourself. Write about how you’ll forgive and help yourself stand whenever life knocks you down. When you write, be as detailed as possible.

Your love letter will have a tremendous ongoing impact on your life. Please don’t rush through it. Just sit with your thoughts for a while.

2. Nurture Yourself Like A Well-Loved Child

See your younger self as a child for whom you are responsible for protecting, nurturing, guiding, and providing care. Make it a habit of speaking kindly to the child you carry within you. Your interactions with the world can be rough, but you can choose gentleness when caring for your emotional well-being.

“There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you.” — Maya Angelou

3. Practice Visualization Using A Vision Board

A vision board displays images representing whatever you want to be, do, or have in your life. Similar to visualization, vision boards work according to the principles of the Law of Attraction. Create a vision board and let your imagination soar. Free your mind to allow for every possibility. Know there are no limits except the ones you have imagined.

4. Write Your Future Story In Epic Proportions

This exercise aligns with the work you’ve done on your vision board. It’s about hoping for the future and believing in yourself. As you write your future story, you must abandon your self-limiting beliefs. Tell the story as you would to a friend who hasn’t seen you in five or more years. As you write your future story, share the achievements that made you proud and tell your friend about the many changes you have made and the obstacles you overcame to get where you are in that moment.

5. Go From Wishing To Measurable Goals By Investing In A Planner

People often overlook the power of planners and journals. There’s a belief that “If you fail to plan, you plan to fail” and that “A goal without a plan is just a wish.” Planners help to minimize the risk of failure by helping you identify milestones and tackle potential issues. Working with a journal lets you document wins, work through challenges, and brainstorm solutions. As you use your planner, revisit your vision board and future story and bring it all together.

6. Make Home And Work Spaces Benefit You

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Make your environment personal, nurturing, supportive, and comfortable, whether it’s your home or workspace. These are the spaces where you live out your days.

Every sight, sound, and smell affects your body and mind. Make your areas work to empower you, boost your productivity, and nurture your imagination. Make it look and feel like the you you strive to become.

7. Show yourself love by practicing excellent self-care

To test your self-love, look at how well you practice self-care. We give time and attention to the things we care most about. And we care most about what we give our time and attention to.

Self-care includes getting enough physical activity, eating well, caring for our emotional well-being, being kind to ourselves with our self-talk, and doing extras like caring for our skin and getting massages. The last two items might appear minor, but notice how much we tend to touch those we love.

“The most powerful relationship you will ever have is the relationship with yourself.” — Diane Von Furstenberg

8. Develop and practice a ritual with mantras, motivation, and meditation

Why mantras, motivation, and meditation?

Practice mantras because you can change your mindset by repeating motivational and empowering phrases to connect with your thoughts and rewrite your subconscious beliefs.

Develop motivation because it helps you seek clarity in your goals and empower yourself to take action to achieve your dreams.

Practice meditation because it helps you feel centered and find peace of mind.

Reboot your life by retraining your brain to adopt a healthier, more positive mindset and discovering more functional habits. Try these eight recommendations, then pay close attention to the changes you’ll begin to notice in your mind, body, and surroundings.