Of all the things that hold us back from being who we are and what we can be, our own self plays the greatest role. We have a voice inside of us that tells us we are a failure and we are incapable of great things . It keeps putting us down by telling us what we lack, It exaggerates are shortcomings and makes us unsure of our self.
Many people in our life do a pretty fine job criticizing and judging us. When this internal voice sides with them and gets stronger, we lose confidence in ourselves and start believing it.
The internal critic cant be silenced , it can only be calmed. For it is also the very thing that pushes us forward to be better. We just have to identify its unrealistic standards and realize that its okay to not live up-to them. Its okay to make mistakes.
We have to teach it to look at the bright side of everything. Better yet, we can make our negative nancy be friends with our positive polly.
When we become aware of all the voices inside us and are able to choose which one to believe we get better at taking criticism, whether its internal or external. When we identify our fears and the fact that overcoming them is the only way through, we start to believe in our self more.
We cant really block all the criticism that comes to or through us, however we can be honest with ourselves and see what can we use from it for our own good. Nothing can hold us back unless we identify with it and that’s a choice we make.
“Let me never fall into the vulgar mistake of dreaming that I am persecuted whenever I am contradicted.”
― Ralph Waldo Emerson