Being Selfish

One of the major reasons we fail to be at peace with our self and others is the desire to have the upper hand in everything. Selfishness stains our hearts and blinds us to the truth of being. We delude ourselves into thinking that having more than others is what success is.

And so we are reluctant to share, and hesitant to give. We want everything for ourselves. Anybody with such a mindset thinks of every one as a rival, as a competitor he has to outrun, all the while fearing that he will be trumped.

Selfishness does not only pertain to money and possessions, it involves anything we want or keep to ourselves by being unjust to another person.

We can be selfish with our skills, when we only use them for our own good. We tend to be selfish with some useful knowledge or information that we don’t share because we fear it might help others get better. We can be selfish with our time when we are unwilling to share it with our close ones. We can be selfish in giving our love and support to people we know are in need of it.

At the root of all selfish acts is insecurity. A fear that others will have better or be better than us.

Wanting to be superior than others in any way makes us weaker, we are always on the outlook to surpass them. Our worth becomes relative to others which makes us even more selfish and covetous.

The truth is that there is very little we need, most of what we run after is what we think we want. There is nothing wrong in getting what we desire, but we ought to know its not at the expense of other people. We need to make sure what we want for ourselves is not something another deserves.

“Almost every sinful action ever committed can be traced back to a selfish motive. It is a trait we hate in other people but justify in ourselves. ” 
Stephen Kendrick