We Asked A Matchmaker What Her Best Relationship Advice Is — Indian Matchmaking
|Single to Shaadi
We might be a little biased but this is some great advice. I know everyone is tired of going on awkward dates but in our opinion, try to have fun and take your time because as Meredith Suzuki says “the poor sucker may be stuck in a tree somewhere”.
By: Meredith Suzuki
November 7, 2016
Okay, I get it. Chivalry has long been pronounced death and the chances of finding a gentleman in the midst of us is equivalent to those of finding a unicorn. Everywhere we look, we see and hear the same song. From tinder stories gone horribly wrong to first dates we wished never happened, the dating world has certainly changed throughout the years. Yet, no matter how many horrible dates and stories crossed my path, I refuse to believe that finding love is impossible.
Look at your parents and your grandparents. They found each other, just like you’ll find your partner in crime. So, lucky for you (and unlucky for me), my mother is a matchmaker. She began to match family friends as a hobby and ended up with dozens of people contacting her on a daily basis for help along with over a thousand participants in her Facebook group, Meet Mazal.
This is the relationship advice she believes are essential:
1. Screw your list
Let’s be real, we all have a list of characteristics we want our future partner to have. They need to be tall and handsome, educated, funny, kind, along with, let’s say, a thousand other points on your checklist.
But what many of us fail to realize is that the perfect person on paper is likely the wrong person for you. Do they excite you? Make you smile? These are questions that can’t be answered on that piece of paper. Listen to the beating rhythm of your hearts, and let the outcome surprise you.
2. Find someone who builds with you, not for you
A relationship should be about teamwork. Someone who will build you up when you’re down, and vice versa.
Finding someone who is prepared to do everything for you may very well lead to the phrase “You wouldn’t have this if it weren’t for me” thrown at you after every argument.
3. Don’t assume
Want to know more about someone? It’s not rocket science, simply ask! Assumptions and Facebook stalking will get you nowhere (because once you start digging for dirt, you damn well know you won’t find anything good.)
Asking questions sends the clear message you’re interested in getting to know that person, and allows the other person to do exactly the same.
We all know dating is stressful, and stress leads to a snaccident (i.e eating an entire box of oreos… by mistake.) Let these tips lead you down a journey of stress-free dating, and finding your prince at the end. Just take your time, the poor sucker may be stuck in a tree somewhere…
