Emotional Intelligence describes a person
Emotional Intelligence describes a person’s ability to recognize emotions, to understand their effect, and to use that information to guide thinking and behavior — helping you make better decisions and reach goals more quickly. But how to enhance the emotional intelligence is complex subject.
From my life experience, there are some practical ways to enhance the emotional intelligence:
1) Reflect your emotion
It is indispensable to figure out what kinds of things will trigger the negative emotions, which offers the insights for approaches to control it. For example, think about how you typically respond when you read an email that makes you angry. By identifying your own emotions and reactions, you become more mindful and can start to build control.
2) Ask others for perspective
We see ourselves differently than others see us. Ask a friend or close colleague how you react when they’re emotional. The answers will help you achieve a more accurate view of yourself. Moreover, It is important to learn the great aspects of others’ regarding to emotional intelligence. For example, I have consulted my uncle who is the power leader with the superior high emotional intelligence. He always can make others comfortable with him and better at establishing the stable relationship. He give me the advice to firstly learn to control the bad feelings since he think I am the person who have the lower emotional management skills.
3) Be observant
Armed with this newly acquired knowledge, you can be more observant of your current emotions. Self-reflection and thinking about what others have shared will help you to be more in tune with what you’re feeling.
4)The pause
“The pause” is as simple as taking a moment to stop and think before we act or speak -an ability that’s hindered by factors like added stress. Practice pausing before responding to an upsetting email, or before posting comments on social media. For me, I am the person who will directly express the feeling in the public. My parents taught me several times that not to express the emotions easily and offer me this method-pause before express emotion. This is quite help since I think a while before make the decision about whether express the emotion or not.
5)Focus on feelings, not events
Showing empathy means trying our best to see a situation through another person’s eyes. We may not understand why they feel uncomfortable, angry, or hurt. But we can all relate to those feelings, and that helps us relate to the person. That means do not close the mind to the negative feedback and do not respond negatively.
6) Practice, practice, practice
Like any other skill or ability, practice makes … better. Of course, it’s impossible to have perfect control over your emotions. But keep practicing these steps and you’ll start to harness the power of emotions — and use them to work for you, instead of against you.
These are essential tips and strategies for me to enhance the emotional intelligence, and till now, I am able to control my emotional at the proper level.
