Things My Therapist Says to Me That I’ve Also Said to My Kids While Teaching Them to Ride Their Bikes

Andrew Knott
Feb 25 · 2 min read

It’s not about being perfect, it’s about finding the right balance.

Keep your eyes looking forward. When you spend too much time looking behind you, it ends in disaster.

It doesn’t matter how fast you get there, everyone moves at their own pace.

You don’t know what life is going to send your way, that’s why you should always wear your helmet.

It’s okay to cry. You don’t always have to put on a brave face for the world.

I don’t care how Brad does it. You don’t have to do it the same way as Brad.

Stop beating yourself up! No one gets it right the first time they try!

Ask yourself, is this really that big a deal? Don’t build this up to be something more important than it is.

I know it hurts right now, but you aren’t going to feel this way forever.

Sometimes the biggest obstacle is inertia. Learning to change direction isn’t easy.

You’re going to have to take off these training wheels eventually.

When you’re struggling, just focus on what’s right in front of you.

This whole thing is full of ups and downs, but no matter what, you need to keep your feet on the pedals.

Failure is difficult, but it’s part of the process.

If you feel like you’re losing control, take a deep breath and hold onto the handlebars a little tighter.

You don’t have to go a hundred miles per hour all the time. It’s okay to coast when you need a break.

Have you considered there might be something underlying your persistent thoughts of death? A deeper, more spiritual yearning. Or that you’re afraid of time running out before you make it where you want to be. It’s important to have a destination in mind before you start your journey. Look. The past is the past. And in the end, you have a choice to make. Are you going to keep spinning your wheels trying to please everyone else in your life or are you going to find a path that makes you happy? When you look back on this moment, how do you want to remember it? As the moment you went your own way or the moment you continued down the same road? Both options are perfectly acceptable. You just have to decide which is the right choice for you. Which will make you happy now and, more importantly, five or ten years from now. Are you listening to me? I think you are hearing, but I’m not sure you are really listening.

Don’t worry. I won’t let you fall!


Medium humor. Large laughs.

Andrew Knott

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Writer, humorist, dad of three. Writing for Washington Post, McSweeney’s, Weekly Humorist, and more. Fatherhood Book:



Medium humor. Large laughs.

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