Don’t let others influence your goals

Pierce Zaifman
Jun 4, 2017 · 2 min read
Image for post
Image for post

It’s human nature to compare yourself to others. Everybody does it. The problem is that many of us misunderstand what we’re comparing.

For example, you’re looking at Facebook and see that your friend got a new high paying job. This person is the same age as you, but you know they are making significantly more money than you. Why aren’t you doing that well? You may feel like you’ve fallen behind, or that something has gone wrong in your life.

Yet, consider this: you and your friend are different people. You live completely different lives. It’s not as if your friend is a copy of you with a better job. Maybe you’re more athletic than them, or you have more free time to enjoy each day. Think about what you have, not what you don’t have.

It’s easy to get tunnel vision and focus on the negatives. Thoughts like: “I’m not making enough money”, “I need to start exercising more”, “I need to travel more”, or “I don’t have enough friends”. While it’s good to have goals, there’s only so much time in a day, in your life. You can’t do everything, but nobody can. It’s not something you should feel bad about.

We sometimes look at the best parts of other people’s lives and compare ourselves. We can’t measure up to that. That’s a combination of people, nobody has the best of everything. You have to decide what’s most important to you.

People do change though. Once in awhile you should think about how you are spending your time. Are you making progress towards your goals? Have your goals changed? If you decide you want to start working out, then you need to take time away from something else.

Figure out what you want and spend your time accordingly.

If You Enjoyed Reading, Please Click That Little Heart. If You Want To Read More Like This, Follow Me On Medium. Thanks!

Originally published at piercezaifman.com on June 4, 2017.

Improve your life, be more productive, life lessons, life…

Pierce Zaifman

Written by

Slight Improvement
Pierce Zaifman

Written by

Freelance Android app developer | I love productivity, creativity, and finding balance | Email me for a quote at pierce@piercezaifman.com

Slight Improvement

Improve your life, be more productive, life lessons, life hacks, school and work, interesting stories.

Medium is an open platform where 170 million readers come to find insightful and dynamic thinking. Here, expert and undiscovered voices alike dive into the heart of any topic and bring new ideas to the surface. Learn more

Follow the writers, publications, and topics that matter to you, and you’ll see them on your homepage and in your inbox. Explore

If you have a story to tell, knowledge to share, or a perspective to offer — welcome home. It’s easy and free to post your thinking on any topic. Write on Medium

A button that says 'Download on the App Store', and if clicked it will lead you to the iOS App store
A button that says 'Get it on, Google Play', and if clicked it will lead you to the Google Play store