A 22-Year Old Dares a 12-Year Old to Show His Penis on Insta Live — “Just” a Prank or Child Porn?

Two lives ruined in the heat of the moment

Judith Valentijn
Apr 24 · 4 min read
Photo by @felipepelaquim on Unsplash

“If you show your penis now, right here, I’ll give you 17k. Send me your bank account, and you’ll have it.”

His friend interrupts him to inform the kid is a minor. But either he doesn’t listen, or he doesn’t care. So he continues, laughing his ass off while he keeps persuading the boy to show his genitals. The boy protests by saying he doesn’t have a bank account.

“I’ll give it to you in cash!”

And that is how a 12-year-old boy exposed himself on an Instagram live stream. Almost 5,000 people watched the stream, and the screen recordings of his genitals immediately went viral on all social media platforms.

The guy pointing and laughing at the boy’s penis is a 22-year-old Dutch award-winning actor and rapper, Bilal Wahib. His fanbase is mainly comprised of teens and tweens, and he even hosts a show for kids called “Teenage Boss.”

When people in the chat point out the kid is a minor, the actor doubles down on his bullshit.

“That’s f*cked up. With all due respect, I didn’t know. If he is indeed 12, I’ll double the money,” he says, laughing.

Even after getting confirmed that he paid a 12-year-old to show off his genitals, he still thinks it is a joke.

His friend asks viewers no to share any screen recordings, but it is already too late. The next morning, the police arrest the actor on suspicion of making, owning, and distributing child porn.

Not long after his arrest, Bilal’s Instagram account is removed. Next, his record label posts a message saying they dropped him. The TV station that broadcasts “Teenage Boss” announces they won’t be working with him anymore. Radio stations immediately stop paying his records.

His lawyer released a statement, expressing the actor's regret. Offering the kid money was a rash decision, and it was just a joke. He admits he’s made a terrible mistake, and it feels horrible to see his whole life crashing down in front of him.

The boy's family decided not to press charges, and the police released Bilal the next day. That doesn’t mean he’s off the hook, though. He can still get indicted by the Justice Department for child pornography without anyone pressing charges.

Some of his teenage fans fiercely defend him on Twitter. They say Bilal’s not a pedophile, and the clip doesn’t qualify as child porn because it wasn’t “meant that way.”

Paying a kid to show his genitals on a live stream is problematic AF, even if it was “just” a joke. But are his fans right? Does the intent behind the nudity decide if something is child porn or not?

Here, in The Netherlands, it is punishable by law to watch, own, share, distribute, or make child porn. The main factor for Dutch law isn’t consent — it’s age.

Child porn is an image or a video of a minor (someone below the age of 18) who is performing sexual acts. (Source)

An adult raping a kid on tape is obviously child porn. But if two teens have consensual sex and film and share it, that is punishable by law, too.

If a 15-year-old asks a 14-year-old for nudes and forwards these to a friend — that’s considered child pornography too. And if a teen receives nudes from a kid they don’t know and post these on social media — you guessed it, it’s distribution of child porn.

But what about pulling down your pants on Insta Live because one of your idols offered you money to do so? There was no sexual context or innuendo in the conversation. Or should it be marked as child porn simply because you can see a minor’s genitals?

So maybe it’s not child porn, but it’s still problematic. As someone pointed out in the live chat on the screengrab: “He’s definitely gonna get bullied at school.”

Because that’s what happens.

Teenagers get pressured to expose themselves or engage in sexual acts on camera, the footage spreads on social media, they get shamed and bullied, and sometimes even commit suicide.

Discovering your sexuality as a teenager is complex. There is a lot of curiosity and funny stuff, and also a lot of shame and discomfort. Except for ace kids (you are valid, and I love you!), every teen has to find a healthy way to deal with their lust.

And it is very unhealthy to have your private journey broadcasted on social media or shared in WhatsApp groups.

As a society, we need to protect our teens without making nudity or sex shameful.

It is safe to say the actor’s career is over — for now. These events happened a month ago, and so far, police haven’t stopped by his house again. He might not have to go to trial, but it will take some time for people to want to work with him again.

But the consequences for the 12-year-old could even be worse. His face is clearly visible in the footage. His entire class probably knows by now what his penis looks like. He’s probably already received the first texts or emails from bullies.

He might think it is his fault. People will call him stupid for exposing himself.

But if you’re 12 and the coolest actor in the country is daring you — and even offering you money — to show your penis?

In the heat of the moment, you pull it out.

And in the heat of the moment, two lives will have to deal with a lot of drama in the months — perhaps even years — to come.

What do you think? Is this child pornography, and should Bilal spend time in prison? Or was it “just” a stupid joke with significant consequences?

Judith Valentijn

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Failing forward. Writer. Psychology student. Certified Non-Duality Coach. Reluctant marketer. Reach out: judith.valentijn@gmail.com

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Judith Valentijn

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Failing forward. Writer. Psychology student. Certified Non-Duality Coach. Reluctant marketer. Reach out: judith.valentijn@gmail.com

Snippets of Growth

Life is all about growth. From pretty and profound to unwanted and ugly. Here’s mine.

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