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soliloque spotlight #13

Bonus Edition: One-Year Anniversary|D. Abboh

Photo of the writer. Used with her permission.

Although soliloque is a space for my thoughts, I have always been in favor of a community and strengthening it. The “soliloque spotlight” has highlighted writers, artists, and all-around creatives who have inspired me in some way, and also have voices more powerful than some of the heavy-hitters we see published on a daily basis here on this writing home of ours we know as Medium. Why I have done this? What was the purpose, Tre?

If we do not lift each other up, flash some light in the direction of those sparking up something poignant, or share the incredible words of the writers around us, who will? I have published twelve feature spotlights so far, and this one is truly special.

soliloque celebrated its one-year anniversary on September 03, 2022, and ending this spotlight feature with this writer was how I wanted it done.

So, without further ado …

D. Abboh is an incomparable writer. She can be a breath of fresh air when you need it and a pull to your soul when you recognize you’ve been missing it. She is a “ bookish native of south London via her family tree, rooted in Nigeria.” She conveys, to the best of her ability, the wondrousness, and failings of human conditions. She is, as I am sure can be assumed by her writing, a “proud and exhausted mother” of two beautiful sons.

When I read D’s work, I am lifted off to places unknown — where I can relax, let loose, and sink into her gorgeous stories. She is an extraordinary gift to Medium, and I am so glad I have had the opportunity to bask in the effervescence of her words for the past few years.

Hey there — I’m D. Writer/Storyteller | Creative Non-Fiction | Poetry. I know a little Tai Chi — but my Kung Fu is weak. Email: dabboh76@outlook.comD. Abboh

When a writer speaks of themselves, what do you expect? D. is a full-throttle punch here in this masterpiece …

I would say I too am convinced by the living breathing power of words, I can only hope to become more mindful of this day by day. Some days, I really blow it. On those days writer’s block ensues, I feel the block takes hold if i’m in resistance to what is written on my soul in any given moment. I’m incredibly passionate. But, I’m also an introvert who avoids confrontation. On a bad day, this is my saving grace. Being more mindful is hard. I find the words in the Tao Te Ching by Lao Tsu a helpful book for that.

What quotes resonate with you? Are you able to apply them to your own life?

I’ve got these feelings

Sometimes I think I might drown in a sea of emotions, so many raw emotions to manage. The one I view with a side eye like a ‘frenemy’ in the worst of times is my anger — definitely needs management. I’m the implosive type, so I will give ninety-nine one more chances — but the one hundreth time, we have one huge problem that manifests in a volcanic eruption. Yikes. I’m working on it, but progress is slow.

There will be tear-jerkers, like this one. And you’ll feel refreshed afterward …

Almost twelve years ago, I stood at my mother’s bedside in the hospital — alongside my siblings. It was a heart attack in the ambulance the night before, that brought us there. The doctors had managed to shock her heart back to beating again, but she remained unconscious. She never woke up.

That night, I watched her breaths slow right down — to the very last one.

I began drowning, I couldn’t breathe — not underwater.

She creates poetry that sings a welcoming melody. I am always moved …

I have a thousand stories racing around inside
some of them will breathe, some will never see the light

The untold stories are the heaviest weight
the shared stories have been liberated by grace

The measure of a life are the stories we are
the joy and the rage, the love and the scars

She can craft poetry in form effortlessly. This beautiful lune is just one example …

somewhere in between
you and I
something’s here tonight

At the end of every trying day, all we really want is a damn soft life …

Every day,
I walk the tightrope of single motherhood —
I’m crossing ravines whilst under the influence of the patriarchy.
I have tripped and fallen apart in unsteady love,
been left behind season after season like a forgotten thing —
the unread book on a bookshelf gathering dust.
Unable to see the woods for the trees —

D. is so much more than a writer, she’s a creator. She is innovative, purposeful, and a perfect executioner as it relates to imagery and storytelling. She is overall, a wonder — the woman with a gift of gab that never ceases its flair. If you want to be whisked away by the undeniable hold she can bring, do yourself a favor and dive into her work.

D. can be found on Twitter, as well.

Thank you for coming along with us here in soliloque for the spotlights. Your presence here is truly a blessing. Peace.



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Tre L. Loadholt

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