Why Not! If GOD wants me too — i’d be open for it.
Marriage!! As my brother explained, Josse, you can do anything in life, earn millions, build a beautiful house, everything can be done easily but getting the whole act of Marriage right is a difficult task (Not to mention the Indian setup of Marriage (: This is a New-Generation problem which needs to addressed ASAP. I wont address it but will share what enlightens me.
Recently there was a match which came up for my sister and we declined it immediately because the groom was not a Catholic. #1 on my sisters list is Catholic. But that's not the catch here — He is physically challenged (though this was not the reason for us to decline this match).
It was reason good enough for me to think on how to go about this whole scenario.
I’d be the point of reference her — not someone else!!!
All of us have some expectations about our future wife or husband (My case in study- unless GOD has other plans). Lets look at my expectation — I’ll list the top 3 for you (everything else covers in these 3 for me).
- Should LOVE GOD more than ME.
- Should LOVE to serve (Servant attitude).
- Should be VERY BEAUTIFUL (from the inside though).
Does this mean I am going to marry everyone who fulfills this criteria. Na!!!
There would be a due process of discernment before I make this decision. Firstly, I would spend good time to discover what GOD whats out of my life. Once I am absolutely sure about what HE wants me to do (I mean specifically the “CALL”) I will go ahead and choose a wife who fits in this call or put it this way, GOD will bring a wife who fits in this call.
Trust me, this strategy solves 95% of the selection problem (:
Here I am pretty much done with the problem of marriage.
What NEXT !!!
DANGER!!
What if GOD plays spoilsport and brings a girl/boy who looks pretty much average or fat or dark or bald head or any other stereotypes we generally have ? or in my case- a person who is physically challenged ? (my case- since I am entitled to my opinion). Would I have the courage to go ahead and trust GOD on this one ? I think its a clear NO!!!
Many Young people seek GOD specially for marriage (both the spiritual and the super spiritual). Most of us have a long list of things that needs to be addressed even before we go any forward on this whole saga of marriage. As our expectations crash, we reach a breaking point where we take anything that comes by (you see its the number game). Many young people need to realize that outer beauty will fade, what remains is a good heart.
As the Bible teaches us :
Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
Proverbs 31:30
Fulton Sheen put it this way :
“Beauty on the outside never penetrates within, but the beauty within radiates on the face.”
Dear friend, Be open for what GOD has for you — You’d be happy beyond what you can ever imagine or think of, don’t go by the patters of this world or what you see in those movies (its real only on the reel).
Coming back to the crux of the issue : If GOD asks me to marry a physically challenged person — What would I do ?
Firstly, I’d argue with GOD and give him another 100 reason on why I shouldn't. Then I’d tell myself that this is from the DEVIL (poor guy gets blamed for everything). Then I’d tell GOD the classic reason — “My mother will not agree”. Finally in my case (from past experience) understand that you don’t argue with GOD (: and start counting the cost for a life that he’s calling me to. I think I would GO ahead with “MARRIAGE” and live a happy life with my Princess (whoever she is):(unless GOD has other plans).
If I marry a person who is physically challenged many will talk about the nice heart that I possess and look at me as an inspiration. As though I am giving life to this physically challenged woman. It would be none of these — For me (If at all GOD calls me to do it) it would be a simple act of obedience. I’d take it as :
GOD’s call for my sanctification!!
Always (: Josse
