No Man Is An Island

A message for people who are overly independent.

You can’t reach your full potential doing it all by yourself.

For as long as I can remember I have been an independent person. I’d be the first to say “I got this. I don’t need any help.” I was the embodiment of superwoman. I thought I could accomplish everything by myself.

I was afraid. Afraid to rely on others due to the possibility of being let down. Afraid that needing help made me weak.

It’s great to have independence but the problem arises when you think you can do everything by yourself. The truth is you can’t. Humans weren’t designed that way.

Everybody needs somebody and that is perfectly okay. For me growth has been in the realization that needing others doesn’t make me weak, it actually makes me stronger. It takes honesty and vulnerability to admit that you need others. When you have a lot of pride, it takes courage to ask for help.

If you’re reading this and you’re anything like me I encourage you to ask for help. Your trajectory changes when you enlist the assistance of others who can provide expertise and strength in areas where you are weak. There is strength in being able to receive.

The next level of independence is synergy. If you don’t incorporate others into your efforts ultimately you are hindering yourself.

Candra Adia is a transformational life coach, writer and motivational speaker. She specializes in helping entrepreneurs start, run and grow their business. She resides in Los Angeles. Connect with her at

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