Say What You Mean And Mean What You Say

One of the most valuable lessons I’ve learned with time is the necessity to be honest and upfront.

I’m a recovering people pleaser and I know there are many like me around the globe. I’ve often held back the truth, not spoken up and/or sugar-coated my words in an attempt not to hurt other’s feelings. I thought I was doing them a favor and I knew I was doing myself a favor. You see, not being completely transparent with my words allowed me to spare myself of their reaction; which I feared. I’ve learned over time that not saying what I mean and meaning what I say actually does more harm than good.

I’ve covered this before, but the truth ALWAYS serves the highest good of everyone involved — even when it doesn’t seem like it.

When you aren’t completely forthright with your thoughts and words you’re out of congruence. And, when you’re out of congruence you hurt others and you hurt yourself. When you aren’t completely forthright your energy comes across as passive-aggressive, dishonest and disloyal. That becomes how others perceive and receive you.

I’ve learned that it’s annoying, aggravating and deceiving to not be upfront. An action you perceive as sparing someone else’s feelings can actually end up upsetting them. When you are forthright with your words and thoughts you give others the power to chose.

Say what you mean and mean what you say; walk with integrity through life.


Candra Adia writes daily musings on the perfect imperfections of life here in Soul Connected. Receive one every morning to read as you start your day by clicking here to subscribe.

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