Today Is Today — Tomorrow Is Tomorrow

Candra Adia
Aug 23, 2017 · 3 min read

Today doesn’t have to go into tomorrow unless you allow it.

Recently I found myself in a funk. I was having a “bad” day. I was down, the future seemed hopeless and I felt a depressed state creeping in.

Look, everyone has these types of days. Some have them sparingly, and for others the days turn to weeks, months or even years. They are days when you’re off.

Luckily, I was aware of what I was feeling and experiencing as it was happening. Having awareness of what was occurring internally allowed me to honor and respect how I was feeling, while simultaneously recognizing that my feelings weren’t real. My awareness also led me to do something I don’t normally do — reach out to someone to talk — I knew a trusted friend was what I needed to move through where I was. I didn’t try to make the feelings go away; instead I let them be. I let them be with the knowledge that they were temporary and not my reality. My awareness allowed me to question the validity of the damaging thoughts invading my mind.

Awareness, compassion and letting the feelings be allowed them to move through me and, as a result, my disposition started shifting before the day was over. Additionally, I woke up the following day in a much better mood.

Today is today. It’s has its own ups, downs, experiences and challenges, but tomorrow does not have to fraternize with today unless you allow it. Let me say it another way — you do not have to take the hopelessness, depression, struggle, heartache and disappoint of today into tomorrow.

When you find yourself having an “off,” wrong side of the bed, day here are 5 action items you can implement to help you move through the space you’re in.

1. Bring awareness to the experience

In order to move through what you’re feeling first you have to acknowledge and recognize what’s occurring internally. Awareness is needed to accurately evaluate the situation and to keep a handle on what’s really, real.

Take the time to feel what you’re feeling (we’re talking hours not day or months) without judgement.

2. Observe the thoughts passing through your mind.

If you’re feeling off your mind is a part of the equation. As the thoughts pass through your mind ask yourself if they are true and real. Also observe where you’re internally dwelling — are your thoughts residing in the past or the future.

Use your thoughts as a learning tool to find out what core limiting belief(s) are dancing around within you.

3. Have compassion and understanding for yourself.

Don’t bully yourself to make yourself get over it. Allow the feelings to be present and give them space to process. Do not bypass what you’re feeling.

Allow yourself to remain in a space of non-judgment.

4. Solicit help.

Solicit the assistance of someone you know and trust to help get you through. This is a great time to spend some introspective periods alone. If you need to talk, take the step to reach out and receive a trusted friend/advisors listening ear. Additionally, meditation is a great tool to assist with this step.

Remember asking for help doesn’t make you weak; it makes you human.

5. Make a firm decision not to get stuck in your feelings.

Today is today, and what you’re feeling today can stay within the confines of the day. You can wake up tomorrow completely void of the emotions and experiences of the day before. Each day is a stand-alone event…if you allow it to be. Getting stuck in your feelings allows victimhood to enter. Additionally, getting stuck will keep you in a down, depressed, hopeless state.

Allowing your feelings to linger serves no one. Allowing them to linger will not progress you forward.

Remember — having a bad day is an occurrence of life; getting stuck there is a choice.

Candra Adia writes daily musings on the perfect imperfections of life here in Soul Connected. Receive one every morning to read as you start your day by clicking here to subscribe.

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