Emotional Dominos

Esther Levy

Published in

Soul Magazine

4 min readJul 30, 2024

Finding Balance in a World of Tough Choices

Do you ever feel torn between two important aspects of your life?

You’re not alone.

Many of us face these dilemmas:

• Advancing career vs. having a social life
• Sacrificing hobbies to excel at work
• Prioritizing health over social commitments
• Earning money instead of pursuing dreams
• Giving up passions to build a family

These challenges are common, but balance is possible.

How do we navigate these waters without sacrificing what matters most?

First, consider your perspective:

• Are you viewing life through the lens of past trauma?
• Can you align with your nervous system to experience emotions without resistance?

Acceptance is key.

It doesn’t mean giving up — it means processing feelings naturally and reducing stress and anxiety.

Think of emotions as waves:

• They crash onto the shore, then retreat
• One feeling can lead to another
• The first wave might be anger or fear
• Underneath could be sadness or longing

Wait before you react.

Let the waves flow through you.

Remember the tale of two arrows:

1. The first arrow: Inevitable pain, shock, or fondness (initial response)
2. The second arrow: How we interpret it (our internal dialogue)

Building new emotional connections takes practice:

• Go on “dates” with friends or family
• Try new activities together
• Create positive associations through shared experiences

You can have it all if you don’t contradict your desires with negative thoughts:

• Focus on the feeling of already having what you want
• You are a being, not just a doer
• Prioritize tuning into your desires — actions will follow

My reminders for a healthy relationship with myself:

1. Slow down
2. Wait for answers
3. Practice “Mevater” — self-restraint and yielding
4. Fall in love with yourself
5. Trust your decision-making
6. Don’t create unnecessary chaos
7. Allow yourself to feel loved

Remember: You deserve to feel good simply because it’s your inherent right.

By simplifying, preparing, and creating space for connection, we can navigate life’s emotional demons with grace.

What’s your biggest challenge in finding balance? I’d love to hear from you. Feel free to add comments below.

Wishing you peace and harmony,

Esther

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