Couple Goals, and Why Re-framing This Term Matters.

My article’s title is not in reference to the eye-roll inducing hashtag that has become commonplace as of late, splashed all over social media sites and other. People frequently using it in trite ways, such as to showcase the size of an engagement ring, or bragging to the physical attractiveness of a pair, or just plastered alongside photos of couples making out. This lending the hashtag “couple goals” a rather ambiguous and shallow theme, to say the least.

What exactly are the couple goals to which they are referring? To look hot? To speak to the apparent depth of love between the two, based on a piece of jewelry? These do not seem the most fulfilling, authentic, nor the deepest of relational goals.

Is this really the image we feel must be curated in order to convince others that our relationship is a good one? Because this is of course, both misguided and a facade.

Of course, we all want to look our best in photos. And a life goal of most people is to be happy. There is nothing wrong with either of these. However, just because two people appear elated, display a fat rock, or look super sexy in a photo does not necessarily mean the relationship is a happy or healthy one.

So, what exactly are (or at least, should be) legit couple goals, and why…