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Bravery and Control — Why you can’t have both
The hardest things you do, require you to relinquish control over the outcome.
I feel like I am always having conversations about bravery and control. These conversations happen outside of my head, but many happen inside it too. I have to continually remind myself that discomfort is the path to growth, and it takes bravery and courage to step into discomfort, to relinquish control. I seem to be regularly promoting that you can’t have bravery and control at the same time — you need to pick one.
Controlling your life
I’ve recognised in myself that you tend to fight against the world until I feel like I have some measure of control over my life. You probably do too. You structure your day and create routines, you work to establish supportive relationships, you develop habits that align with your goals. Then life keeps changing things on you, forcing you to work out how to adjust these patterns. Just as you realise you are in control, you’ve figured out your groove. You start to realise that you are feeling a little stuck.
So you read a new book, you try some different exercise, you leverage your relationships to inspire you to try something new. In every one of these moments, your mind is telling you to stop, it’s not that…
