Curious About Joining Fetlife? Take My Hand and Let Me Guide You
The ultimate beginners guide to the kinky social network
I remember it as if it were yesterday; the day I sat down to join Fetlife. It was a bright summer morning, on the porch of a café in Mitte, Berlin. My hands quivering as I typed the URL into my browser, I was nuzzled in a corner to make sure no one could catch a glimpse of my screen when the glaring black and red welcome page popped up: Sign up now! Sensing I was about to enter uncharted territory, I took a deep breath—click—and down the rabbit-hole I went.
Now, after roaming the burrows for a few years, I know my way around. The nooks and crannies feel familiar and I’m rather comfy down there—at home even. But it wasn’t always so. When I first got there, I was shaking in my lace lingerie. I had no clue where I was, what I was about to find (yikes!), let alone how to navigate safely, without getting lost.
How did I end up there in the first place? My story isn’t uncommon; after many years in a vanilla relationship, I stumbled across it on my path to reconnecting with my sexuality. Regular dating apps weren’t really doing it, instead, I met people who pointed me in the direction of BDSM—and by default, Fetlife. At the time, I didn’t know what my kinks were but merely sensed them under the…
