The Higher You Fly, The Harder You Drop?

Understanding ‘post-play drop’ in BDSM and what causes it

Ena Dahl
Ena Dahl
Jan 15 · 6 min read
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What is Sub-Space and Dom-Space (or top/bottom-space)?

To understand what causes the Drop, both for tops and bottoms, we have to understand the altered state of consciousness—of our experience of reality—that can occur during intensive scenes. The Drop is comparable to a hangover because the Space entered during play has many similarities—both physiologically and mentally—to the altered states one can reach with the help of various substances.

What happens when we drop?

Having one, or several consecutive, intensive BDSM experiences (or scenes) is akin to taking a heavy dose of drugs—with the obvious difference that we’re not adding any harmful toxins to the body in the process. Much like with most drug-highs, they’re followed by a comedown phase, where, as soon as the effect wears off the body goes into a state of homeostasis in which it tries to restore itself back to balance. In doing this, it will create symptoms that are the opposite to those caused by the drug.

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Learning your needs after a scene can soften the dreaded ‘Drop’. © SPNKD
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